In this introspective episode of Selves Unedited, clinical psychologists Dr. Danielle Colborn and Dr. Maria-Christina Stewart embark on a profound exploration of personal authenticity and image. Drawing from their extensive experience in eating disorder therapy, the hosts challenge listeners to examine the deeper motivations behind their image-related decisions. They ask critical questions: When do personal choices become a form of self-erasure? How can we truly understand the "why" behind our desire to change?Perfect for anyone seeking deeper self-understanding, this episode offers compassionate, evidence-based insights into the intricate relationship between self-image and personal authenticity.

Key Discussion Highlights:

• The psychological landscape of body and image choices

• Unpacking the complex motivations behind self-enhancement

• Distinguishing between genuine self-expression and external pressures

• The delicate balance of self-acceptance and personal transformation

Summary:

What does self-love really mean? In this episode of Selves Unedited, Dr. Maria-Christina Stewart and Dr. Danielle Colborn explore the deep and often misunderstood concept of self-love—beyond affirmations, self-care routines, and the pressure to always feel good about yourself. They discuss how self-love is rooted in self-acceptance, grace, and authenticity, and why it’s a lifelong process, not a destination.

If you’ve ever felt like you need to "fix" yourself to be worthy of love, or if you've struggled with self-criticism and perfectionism, this conversation is for you.

Notable Moments from the Episode:

💡 “Self-love isn’t about reaching a perfect state—it’s about embracing yourself as you are.”

💡 “We would never tell a friend, ‘I’ll love you more if you change.’ Why do we do that to ourselves?”

💡 “Rest isn’t something you earn after being productive. It’s something you deserve because you’re human.”

Key Topics Covered:

✅ The difference between self-love and self-care – and why both matter

✅ Why self-love isn’t about feeling great all the time – but about self-acceptance

✅ The myth that "you must love yourself before others can love you"

✅ How societal pressures & perfectionism get in the way of self-love

✅ The role of authenticity and setting boundaries in loving yourself

✅ Self-love in relationships: treating ourselves with the same kindness we show others

✅ The connection between self-love, rest, and emotional well-being

Resources & Links:

📖 Resources by Dr. Kristin Neff on self-compassion

🎧 Previous episode on self-care: What Does Taking Care of Yourself in 2025 Really Mean?

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Episode Summary:

In this episode, Dr. Danielle Colborn and Maria-Christina Stewart dive into what self-care truly looks like in 2025. With the rise of wellness trends, hustle culture, and digital overwhelm, taking care of yourself has never been more important—or more complicated. They explore the myths around self-care, the pressures of modern life, and the real strategies that actually make a difference in physical and mental well-being.

Key Topics Covered:

• Why the traditional definition of self-care needs to evolve
• How societal pressures make it harder to prioritize well-being
• The fine line between self-improvement and self-criticism
• The role of technology in both helping and harming mental health
• Why self-care isn’t about perfection but about sustainability
• Practical ways to care for yourself in 2025 without guilt

Chapters:

00:00 Redefining Self-Care in 2025

02:53 The Importance of Mindfulness and Meaning

05:18 Navigating Discomfort in Self-Care

08:16 Setting Boundaries for Wellbeing

10:47 Finding Balance and Moderation

13:27 Realistic Goal Setting for Self-Care

16:19 Holistic Approaches to Physical Health

23:30 Redefining Exercise and Self-Care

25:49 The Dangers of Goal-Oriented Fitness

29:41 Embracing Imperfection in Life

35:08 Authenticity vs. Perfectionism

39:17 Parenting and Self-Care in Challenging Times