Episodes

  • Why You Get Defensive When You Hear “You’ve Hurt My Feelings”

    Why You Get Defensive When You Hear “You’ve Hurt My Feelings”
    Jul 7 2025
    Why do we immediately put up walls when someone says ‘You’ve hurt my feelings’? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, you’ll discover the psychological reason behind this universal response and learn a simple but powerful reframe that can transform these vulnerable moments into opportunities for deeper intimacy. This insight completely changed how Shannon […]
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    20 mins
  • This Simple Trick Will Make Your Spouse Happier

    This Simple Trick Will Make Your Spouse Happier
    Jun 25 2025
    Want to make your spouse smile more, without grand gestures or big talks? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I share the surprisingly simple trick that shifted the tone in our own marriage (and no, it’s not what you think). You’ll hear how this one small change can create big happiness […]
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    15 mins
  • 343: When should you start seeing progress in marriage therapy?

    343: When should you start seeing progress in marriage therapy?
    Feb 10 2025
    If you’re feeling stuck or wondering if your marriage therapy is even working, this is the episode where we break down the hidden signs of progress most couples miss, share why slow growth is often the best kind, and reveal what to do if things feel stagnant. Don’t give up too soon—tune in and discover […]
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    25 mins
  • 342: Doing THIS Creates The Deepest Connection

    342: Doing THIS Creates The Deepest Connection
    Jan 27 2025
    Ever wonder what truly creates the deepest connection in a relationship? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I unpack the one practice that can completely transform how you and your spouse relate to each other. Drawing from my twenty years as a marriage therapist and thirty two years from our own […]
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    21 mins
  • 341: Don’t Let Comparison Become the Cancer in Your Relationship

    341: Don’t Let Comparison Become the Cancer in Your Relationship
    Jan 14 2025
    If you’re not careful, comparison can creep in and quietly start sabotaging your relationship. In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I dive into how measuring your relationship against yourself can erode trust, intimacy, and connection. Find out why comparison is more toxic than you think, how to stop it in its […]
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    20 mins
  • 340: Stop Chasing: How to Rebuild Attraction During a Marriage Separation

    340: Stop Chasing: How to Rebuild Attraction During a Marriage Separation
    Jan 10 2025
    Are you in the middle of a marriage separation? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I talk about the one thing that’s pushing your spouse further away—and how to rebuild attraction the right way. Even though some of our suggestions are counterintuitive, we’ll show you how to focus on becoming the […]
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    14 mins
  • 339: Why Your Husband Thinks Your Feelings Are Always Wrong

    339: Why Your Husband Thinks Your Feelings Are Always Wrong
    Jan 7 2025
    Feeling dismissed when you try to share your emotions with your husband? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I unpack why your husband thinks your feelings are the “wrong” feelings—and, more importantly, how the two of you can bridge the gap. Our hope is that we can help you turn frustration […]
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    31 mins
  • Husbands, Stop Trying To Fix Your Wife

    Husbands, Stop Trying To Fix Your Wife
    Jan 3 2025
    Does your wife just want to vent, but you can’t resist jumping in to fix things? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I tackle why your ‘helpful’ solutions might be backfiring—and what to do instead. Discover the surprising secret to truly supporting your wife, strengthening your connection, and avoiding unnecessary conflict. […]
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    24 mins