The final step in this framework is focused on freedom, but more honestly, its about confidence, integrity and longevity. This is really what guys want… they want to LIVE their lives without the bondage of “what if I slip again” or “what if I get tempted”

ENOUGH with this crap… freedom doesnt talk like this, and I want to explain to you HOW to get free. Its not about time, its about resolving root pain and finding completion in your heart - sure this takes time, but time is not the main factor.

You need a guide for this, hands down. I would love to be that guide if you want to consider working with me

If you’re ready to book a call and find out more about coaching with me, check out my calendar at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this part 3 episode, I am going to talk all about freedom and the ways to develop healthy confidence.

• What works

• • Finding clarity on the reasons for the root issues, not just the root issues themselves

  • Resolving the root pain behind the unmet needs and wounds

  • Finding completion with painful relationships

  • Renewing the mind and restoring your identity in Christ

• What does not work

• • Focusing on the present and seeing re occurring problems as part of life

  • Seeing on going issues as your thorn in the flesh

  • Assuming that the past is forgiven so there's no need to do any work with your childhood

  • Getting stuck in the busy cycle of recovery

• Concepts

• • Reverse Engineering - finding clarity in why XYZ arouses you

  • Forgiveness

  • Soul Ties

  • Redefining Core Motivations

  • Inner Child Work

• Application

• • Locate - seeing the boy inside of you

  • Learn - understanding what's at the heart of your on going struggles with pornography

  • Lead - Going from what feels true to what is true

  • Jesus - Re-experiencing life through a new lens with Jesus

    
    

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Its insane how many guys think that awareness is what changes your life… I was stuck in that mindset for a long time and it really kept me stuck… I knew my struggles but I didnt know what to do with them

In this episode, I will lay out the framework for you to get SUPER clear on the real problems and then get SUPER clear on what to do about them based off of what the problems are revealing about your heart.

I am excited about this episode guys, this content is some of the best I have ever come by and I am really proud of the work we do with DeepClean… it took me many years to understand this concept and now you can figure it out with me in just 20 mins, thats pretty cool!

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Heres what ill be sharing in this part 2 episode all about becoming emotionally mature and achieving solid sobriety

• What works

• • Becoming emotionally aware THEN using that awareness to change the way you act

• What doesn't work

• • Defining your emotions and expecting life to change because you now know how you feel

• Concept

• • Utilize Trigger Digger, Trigger Template and Journaling to grow in awareness

  • • Quick insight on each one

  • Define your red zone plan - triggers, fear response, tendencies

  • Understand your longings/needs - main needs of humans and 4 ways to get them met

  • Create a green zone plan focused on what and how will help you experience what you need - proactive and reactive

• Application with example

• • Red Zone

  • • Trigger: Fear of rejection

    • Response: Submit and freeze

    • Tendencies: people please, overeat, judge others, internal anger, avoidance of conflict, futility towards relationships

  • Needs

  • • Safety, vulnerability, support, predictability, hope, reassurance, curiosity

  • Green Zone

  • • What can help

    • • Bible, prayer walks, calling a friend, spotify playlist, having a bath, meeting with mentor, throwing rocks by the water, hugging my wife

    • Who can help

    • • Wife, friend, mentor, God, sister, brother

    • When did I feel it before

    • • Conflict with mom was resolved, safee to fail with wife, exposed by friend with love, invited into fellowship with church group

        
        

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In this episode and 3 part series, I am going to show you the SIMPLE way to do recovery effectively. I have seen thai help hundreds of guys overcome porn, masturbation, and sex addiction and I want to share it with you in a bite size version

I have been free nearly 8 years from porn, masturbation and sex and iv spent 10 000 + hours refining this process. I hope you will glean from it so you can have everything and more in the next few years of your recovery

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Here’s what I talk about in this part 1 episode on Gaining Perspective

• Who/Where

• • The Gospel - Scripture, Holy Spirit

  • Mentors

  • Peers/Spotters

  • Disagree’ers

• WHY

• • We need to get out of our own head and feelings

  • start to see and know what is true, factual and proven

  • Let this dictate how you choose, feel and live

• NAS

• • In knowledge and understanding, you will grow in confidence… ASSURE yourself in the salvation story, Gods character and His promises for you

  • Find a spiritual father - glean from experience

  • Find a discipleship partner - sharpen one another

  • Find a resource that is focused on scripture, facts and has proven results… NOT MORE HYPE or surface stuff

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1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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