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Secret Habit

Secret Habit

By: Shawn Bonneteau; Helena Bonneteau
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Do you wish there were some fun, purpose-driven couples talking about sex in a way that was actually helpful? Back when we were struggling, we certainly did, and that is why the Secret Habit podcast exists. We are Shawn and Helena Bonneteau and we are committed to helping you experience just how satisfying God's design for sexuality can be. Because we know what it's like to deal with things like porn addiction, betrayal trauma, and sexual struggles we can relate to your story and bring refreshing, restorative truths that will lead you to love stronger, laugh harder, and sex better.Shawn Bonneteau; Helena Bonneteau Christianity Spirituality
Episodes
  • S3E7: Mother Wounds - The Hidden Root To Your Porn Addiction
    Sep 10 2025

    The mother wound is often missed or misunderstood... however, iv found it to be the missing link to most guys wounds that lead them down the road to addictions to sex, porn and masturbation

    Why?

    Because the mother is at the heart of our safety, nurture, affection and intimacy. She models for us what a women is like and what its like to interact and live around one

    When men have a mother wound, they struggle to feel safe, to trust, to risk, to find their voice


    I talk about my weekly Trauma Care Workshop on this episode - These workshops have been FIRE in our all new Inner Circle program - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in Christ

    Join the ⁠⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠⁠⁠ today!


    In this Episode, Im going to talk about everything mother wound:

    - How our mother forms our sexuality- Common wounds from the mother- Enmeshment - mom uses the son to numb her pain

    - Triangulation - mom does everything for the family to numb her pain

    - 4 practical steps you can take to heal your mother wound and BE A MAN who is free from porn, masturbation, sex and the fear holding you down from all God made you to be


    Looking for MORE?


    Work with me 1:1: ⁠Book your free strategy call to learn more about DeepClean Signature ⁠


    Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in Christ

    Join the ⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠ ⁠today!


    If you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠⁠⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠⁠⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per day


    MORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: ⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/

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    22 mins
  • S3E6: How To Bring Your Wounds To Jesus
    Aug 11 2025

    Renewing your mind is a key concept in Christianity, but how do you do it?

    You may know what to do, but how?

    Lets talk about that today so you are clear in the how and have some ideas of your next steps

    I talk about my weekly Inner Child Workshop on this episode - These workshops have been FIRE in our all new Inner Circle program - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in Christ

    Join the ⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠⁠ today!


    In this episode. I talk about:

    - Overcoming temptation to porn, masturbation and other sins through articulating your deeper wounding

    - Bringing your wounds to Jesus

    - Developing your prayer life

    - Renewing your mind through clarity of what needs renewing


    For more insights on Inner Child work and trauma care, check out my past episodes - they're FULL of coaching tips on how to apply what you're learning


    Looking for more?

    Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in Christ

    Join the ⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠ today!


    Make sure to check out Episodes 1, 2 and 3 from Season 3, all about my Porn Recovery Framework that I use everyday when coaching clients 1:1 and in group settings


    Looking for MORE? Work with me 1:1: Book your free strategy call to learn more about DeepClean Signature


    If you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per day


    MORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: ⁠https://secrethabit.ca/

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    10 mins
  • S3E5: Depression, Marriage and Recovery
    Jul 28 2025

    Helena is back! Get ready to learn all about her recent 2 years and how she overcame depression and renewed her faith in Christ...

    We will talk about Helenas struggle with depression and the state it created in her

    And about how Shawn found himself as a foreigner, a parent of 2 girls and a husband of a wife going through ALOT at once.

    How did Helena overcome depression without pills?

    How did Shawn remain integrous and porn free?


    This is a really powerful raw chat between two people who have been through a ton. Married 9 years, 8 years of freedom from secual addiction and now 2 kids and a large coaching practise - we love giving back to inspire, convict and offer hope

    May out failures be your success so you can experience ALL that Jesus has for you

    Its time to overcome depression, fear, shame, porn addiction, masturbation and all other sexual bondage!


    Looking for more?

    Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in Christ

    Join the DeepClean Inner Circle⁠ today!


    Make sure to check out Episodes 1, 2 and 3 from Season 3, all about my Porn Recovery Framework that I use everyday when coaching clients 1:1 and in group settings


    If you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per day


    MORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: https://secrethabit.ca/


    RESOURCE PLUG: Humility by Andrew Murray is the book that CHANGED us around this topic of emptying ourselves and truly filling up with Jesus



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    45 mins
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