What if true advocacy for children starts not just in the clinic, but in communities, legislatures, and even within ourselves?

In this insightful conversation, Dr. Lee Sharma sits with Dr. Alisa Minkin as she shares her journey as a pediatrician and mother of a daughter with autism, highlighting how personal advocacy evolved into broader efforts for inclusion and neurodiversity, including the evolution of programs like Art Buddies and Friendship Circles amid initial resistance from both sides.

She discusses the conflicts within advocacy groups, such as the polarization in autism advocacy; debates over whether it's an epidemic or better diagnosis, and tensions between neurodiversity advocates who view it as a way of being and those seeking treatments for severe cases, often complicated by denialism and financial interests that hinder progress on environmental factors like toxins.

Dr. Minkin emphasizes the importance of humility and open dialogue in advocacy, inviting diverse viewpoints to strengthen policies, while addressing challenges in modern pediatrics like burnout, limited time for empathy, and the need for self-advocacy among physicians. She also touches on post-COVID societal fatigue and the yearning for nuance in solving "we problems" like child mental health. Dr. Minkin shares powerful personal stories, including her own phase of vaccine hesitancy and how empathy bridges gaps in patient and advocate interactions.

Three Actionable Takeaways

• Start advocacy from within: Prioritize self-care and personal well-being as a physician to model healthy behaviors and sustain energy for patient and community advocacy.
• Embrace diverse viewpoints: Invite guests or colleagues with differing opinions to foster nuanced discussions and create more robust, practical policies.
• Use empathy in communication: Approach hesitant patients or advocates by acknowledging their fears and perspectives, drawing from personal experiences to build trust and buy-in.

About the Show:

Behind every procedure, every patient encounter, lies an untold story of conflict and negotiation. Scalpel and Sword, hosted by Dr. Lee Sharma—physician, mediator, and guide—invites listeners into the unseen battles and breakthroughs of modern medicine. With real conversations, human stories, and practical tools, this podcast empowers physicians to reclaim their voices, sharpen their skills, and wield their healing power with both precision and purpose.

About the Guest:

Dr. Alisa Minkin, is a board-certified pediatrician with a passion for child advocacy and neurodiversity. She attended Johns Hopkins University and earned her medical degree from NYU School of Medicine, completing her residency at Brookdale University Hospital and Medical Center. As a mother of six, including a daughter with autism, Dr. Minkin has dedicated years to creating inclusive programs and hosts the podcast "Kids Matter!" to discuss raising healthy, happy children.

🔗 Connect with Dr. Alisa Minkin

🌐 Podcast: Kids Matter!

📘 Instagram: instagram.com/alisaminkin

About the Host:
Dr. Lee Sharma is a gynecologist based in Auburn, AL, with over 30 years of clinical experience. She holds a Master’s in Conflict Resolution and is passionate about helping colleagues navigate workplace challenges and thrive through open conversations and practical tools.

• Connect with Dr. Lee Sharma:
  📧 Email: scalpelandsword@gmail.com
  🌐 Website: East Alabama Health - Dr. Sharma

The Scalpel and Sword Podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical, legal, or professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your specific situation.

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Why do everyday conflicts, like eye rolls in the OR or “we’ve always done it this way” in meetings, erode healthcare teams, and how can physicians lead through them effectively?

In this insightful solo episode, Dr. Lee Sharma explores why medical training prioritizes decisiveness over emotional regulation and relational skills, fostering avoidance, dominance, or intellectualization that erodes trust.

She introduces SPARC (Stop, Pause, Ask, Reflect/Respond, Create) as a repeatable framework to de-escalate and transform conflicts into positive outcomes. Unmanaged conflict drains morale, impacts patient care, and fuels burnout amid pressures like staffing shortages and regulations. SPARC begins with stopping reactions to create space, pausing for self-awareness to identify triggers like respect or control, asking curiously to dissolve assumptions, reflecting to make others feel heard before responding intentionally, and creating shared agreements or protocols for forward movement.

Dr. Sharma shares an OB-GYN example resolving senior partner overrides through private feedback, reducing tension. She highlights SPARC’s scalability for various settings and offers free bracelets to encourage daily use among “peaceful warriors” in medicine.

Three Actionable Takeaways

• In heated moments, stop externally (e.g., “Let’s take a minute”) and pause internally to regulate emotions and identify personal triggers like respect or fairness, preventing reactive damage.
• Replace assumptions with curiosity: Ask open questions like “Can you walk me through your thinking?” to uncover hidden pressures and build understanding without defensiveness.
• After reflecting back what you hear, respond intentionally with ownership or boundaries, then create shared solutions like debrief protocols to turn one-off tensions into lasting team improvements.

About the Show:

Behind every procedure, every patient encounter, lies an untold story of conflict and negotiation. Scalpel and Sword, hosted by Dr. Lee Sharma—physician, mediator, and guide—invites listeners into the unseen battles and breakthroughs of modern medicine. With real conversations, human stories, and practical tools, this podcast empowers physicians to reclaim their voices, sharpen their skills, and wield their healing power with both precision and purpose.

About the Host:

Dr. Lee Sharma is a gynecologist based in Auburn, AL, with over 30 years of clinical experience. She holds a Master’s in Conflict Resolution and is passionate about helping colleagues navigate workplace challenges and thrive through open conversations and practical tools.

• Connect with Dr. Lee Sharma:
  📧 Email: scalpelandsword@gmail.com
  🌐 Website: East Alabama Health - Dr. Sharma

The Scalpel and Sword Podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical, legal, or professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your specific situation.

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What if the majority of what we call “ethical dilemmas” are really just conflicts in disguise?

In this rich, practical conversation, Dr. Haavi Morreim shares decades of experience as a philosopher-turned-mediator, attorney, and faculty member at UT Health Science Center. She explains how she moved from watching physicians get crushed by malpractice litigation to teaching clinicians the skills that prevent those wars altogether.

Key insights include:

• Why ethics committees and consults often miss the mark when the real issue is conflict
• The three non-negotiable principles of mediation (no sides, no advice, strict confidentiality)
• How “trust is the coin of the realm” and how to earn it quickly
• Why saying “you must” or “you can’t” instantly turns you into “another pair of fists in the fight”
• Simple, powerful tools every clinician can use: “Tell me more,” affect labeling, exploring the story behind the conclusion, and the anger iceberg

Dr. Morreim also recounts powerful real-world cases, including a tragic pediatric accident with divorced parents and a Jehovah’s Witness obstetrics case, to show how durable agreements are built when people feel truly heard.

Three Actionable Takeaways

• Most ethics consults are actually conflict situations. Resolve the conflict first; the “right answer” often becomes obvious.
• Trust is earned through genuine curiosity, confidentiality, and never taking sides. Never say “you must” or “you can’t” if you want people to own the solution.
• Simple micro-skills (“Tell me more,” affect labeling, “What’s the story behind that conclusion?”) create breakthrough conversations and prevent escalation in minutes.

About the Show:

Behind every procedure, every patient encounter, lies an untold story of conflict and negotiation. Scalpel and Sword, hosted by Dr. Lee Sharma—physician, mediator, and guide—invites listeners into the unseen battles and breakthroughs of modern medicine. With real conversations, human stories, and practical tools, this podcast empowers physicians to reclaim their voices, sharpen their skills, and wield their healing power with both precision and purpose.

About the Guest:

Haavi Morreim, JD, PhD, is Professor in the College of Medicine at the University of Tennessee Health Science Center and Principal of the Center for Conflict Resolution in Healthcare LLC. With a PhD in philosophy (UVA) and a law degree (University of Memphis), she has spent decades teaching, mediating, and training healthcare professionals in conflict resolution, bioethics, and mediation. She is a Tennessee Supreme Court Rule 31 Listed Mediator and regularly mediates both clinical disputes and litigated healthcare cases.

🔗 Connect with Dr. Haavi Morreim

🌐 Center for Conflict Resolution in Healthcare: healthcare-mediation.net

📘 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/haavi-morreim-jd-phd-4a33b974

About the Host:
Dr. Lee Sharma is a gynecologist based in Auburn, AL, with over 30 years of clinical experience. She holds a Master’s in Conflict Resolution and is passionate about helping colleagues navigate workplace challenges and thrive through open conversations and practical tools.

• Connect with Dr. Lee Sharma:
  📧 Email: scalpelandsword@gmail.com
  🌐 Website: East Alabama Health - Dr. Sharma

The Scalpel and Sword Podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical, legal, or professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your specific situation.

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