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S3, Episode 12: "I Don't Understand": The Hidden Language of Defensiveness

S3, Episode 12: "I Don't Understand": The Hidden Language of Defensiveness

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"I don't understand" – three simple words that often mask a world of unspoken feelings. As someone who's spent years in the therapy room, I've witnessed how this phrase rarely signals genuine confusion. Instead, it serves as emotional armor when we're hurt, disappointed, or afraid to engage with difficult truths.

What happens when we replace defensiveness with curiosity?


Whether you're struggling with communication in your personal relationships or professional life, this episode offers a fresh perspective on how to show up differently in charged moments. Download our free Emotional Intelligence Reflection Worksheet from the episode description to practice these skills and transform your difficult conversations. If something in this episode resonates with you, please share it with someone who might need it and leave a review – your support helps others find these tools when they need them most.

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