😭 Meeting your Player 2 organically can be a challenging quest. It involves balancing making friends while keeping an eye out for potential connections. Sometimes, people in a certain group don't share your same passions. Or perhaps not as much as you'd hope. So, how do you move forward? 🤔

In this episode, Pete and I talk about how we socialize, whether the others share our same interests or not 💬 Because sometimes what can seem like a rejection, may in fact turn into an engaging conversation for everyone. You just need a little imagination! 💭

🙈 Pete also shared how he went from being a shy, quiet, serious kid to being comfortable talking to everyone. Just like Attachment Theory teaches, it often involves the support of other people. In his case, with the help of other kids who invited him to hang out 🥳

💪 This validation of Pete's hobbies gave him the security that he had nothing to be ashamed of as a nerd. Even more so nowadays, with Marvel, Fantasy, and Anime being so popular! 🧙‍♂️

🎧 Are you ready to become a social nerd? Press Start!

👾 Most nerd relationships start as friendships. Download the FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality 🕹️

📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord

Pete's Links:

• https://linktr.ee/be1mont
• https://www.instagram.com/be1mont_lotr/
• https://www.youtube.com/@be1mont_lotr
• https://bsky.app/profile/be1mont.bsky.social
• https://www.tiktok.com/@be1mont_lotr
• https://www.youtube.com/@voicesofarda

Related Episodes:

• The High School Reunion: the Nerd Love Story of Pete and Ariana
• Hobbit Hike
• Find Love Through Online Games, with Kaylee Lopez
• Dating In The Tolkien Association
• Animé Los Angeles
• Find Your Nerd Community: Where to Meet Nerds, with Jose
• The Tolkien Association: Where to Meet Nerds, with Vir

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:00:41 Where to Meet Your Player 2
• 00:02:26 Being a Creep
• 00:04:32 Talking About Your Hobbies
• 00:07:11 Dealing With Rejection
• 00:10:56 Not Being Too Serious
• 00:16:07 Gaining Confidence
• 00:21:14 Closing

Contact:
dm@datelikeanerd.com or
@datelikeanerd on social media

💔 How can you find someone to date when dating apps aren't working for you, and all you do is work, stay at home, and meet with the same D&D group or spend full days with one single person at a time playing Warhammer? 🧌

In this episode, Kirk shared his challenges to date as a single nerd 😰 Like many people, he was promised that "if you focus on yourself and sort your life out, someone will naturally come." Unfortunately, that was not the case. He found a steady job and a home, but nobody to share his life with 🏡

📱 Since dating apps weren't working, he decided to shelf the thought of a partner and focus on hobbies like Warhammer and TTRPG. Ironically, that's what led to his first date ever. Even though Kirk started feeling like he was way too busy and almost without options, he managed to find a date. And in the same way that he found one, he can find another. And so can you 🫵Sometimes, we create our characters in ways that don't help us reach our complete specific quests 🤬 We thought a certain build would do the trick for every single area, but that's often not the case.

🏢 The life you thought would lead to happiness may feel more like a trap than anything else. In those cases, taking a step back and thinking of ways to find your Player 2 may be the best strategy. Like Kirk, with some brainstorming and looking at your past successes, you may find a way to defeat the BBEG and get the loot! 🪙

🎧 Are you ready? PRESS START! 👾

👾 FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 🕹️

Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality

📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord

Related Episodes:

1. Find Love Through Online Games, with Kaylee Lopez
2. IRL Lessons from Video Games, with Dr. Daniel Kaufmann
3. Physical Escalation from Friends to Lovers: the Nerd Love Story of Jose and Julian
4. Shy meets Socially Anxious, and Going Slow: the Nerd Love Story of Steven and Christin

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

#datingtips #datingadvice #dating #nerdlife #nerd #gamer #single #socialskills #podcast

Contact:
dm@datelikeanerd.com or
@datelikeanerd on social media

👯 What does dating within a nerd community look like? Finding a group you're comfortable with can help you "just be yourself" and find your Player 2. 🙌 It also means you'll be enjoying yourself until that happens, which makes you more attractive!

🧙‍♂️ In this episode, Jose and I discuss what it was like to date within the Argentine Tolkien Association, where we met. Just like a Skill Tree, each friend you make can introduce you to others who are similar. From within those people, you may end up finding your Player 2... as long as you focus on expanding your network with like-minded friends.

👀 And that's exactly what we saw. Almost everyone there found someone to date (or have "something" with). Almost. Because some people were trying too hard, and that was what kept everyone away. Both as friends and as benefits 😔

🎧 If you want someone to give The One Ring to, listen to this episode! 💍

💬 And if you're wondering where you can meet your Player 2 organically, here are 200+ ideas and a guide to help you on your Quest! Download them here for FREE: https://www.datelikeanerd.com/where

📱Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord

Related Episodes:

1. The Tolkien Association: Where to Meet Nerds, with Vir
2. Find Your Nerd Community: Where to Meet Nerds, with Jose
3. Tolkien meets Star Wars: The Nerd Love Story of Kaia and Celania
4. Physical Escalation from Friends to Lovers: The Nerd Love Story of Jose and Julian

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:54:09 What to Do and NOT to Do
• 00:06:06 "Just Be Yourself"
• 00:08:44 Choosing Who You Want to Be and Date
• 00:11:53 Go Slow With Your Nerdom
• 00:15:40 Conversation Tips for Info-Dumping Nerds
• 00:19:07 Find Your Community First

#datingtips #datingadvice #dating #nerdlife #nerd #gamer #single #socialskills #podcast #tolkien #lotr

Contact:
dm@datelikeanerd.com or
@datelikeanerd on social media