Performance reviews and family gatherings might be more similar than you think. What if the same mindset could help you navigate both with less stress and more success? Today, I explore how leadership principles from Bowen Family Systems theory can transform the way you approach year-end reviews at work and those sometimes-chaotic holiday family get-togethers. Discover practical strategies to make both experiences more meaningful, less anxiety-inducing, and maybe even a little enjoyable.

Highlights

• Why performance reviews are so challenging—and how a mindset shift can help
• Three compelling reasons to embrace performance reviews as a leader
• Strategies for engaging top, mid-level, and lower-performing employees
• The 80/20 rule for effective performance management
• How ongoing conversations make reviews less uncomfortable
• Applying systems theory to family gatherings during the holidays
• Common anxious responses to family events and how to manage them
• Three actionable tips for navigating family dynamics with curiosity and intention
• The connection between family work and professional success

Chapters

00:00 — Introduction: Leadership, Systems, and the Holiday Season

00:34 — Why Performance Reviews Are So Hard

01:43 — Three Reasons to Embrace Performance Reviews

03:38 — Approaching Top, Mid-Level, and Lower Performers

06:49 — The 80/20 Rule in Performance Management

08:22 — Making Reviews Less Uncomfortable: Ongoing Conversations

09:22 — Shifting to Family Gatherings: Holiday Dynamics

10:55 — Typical Family Roles and Reactions

12:05 — Anxious Responses: Distancing, Conflict, and Avoidance

13:27 — Systems Theory: Working on Yourself in Family Settings

13:55 — Three Tips for Navigating Family Events

16:30 — The Ripple Effect: Family Work and Professional Success

17:01 — Closing Thoughts and What’s Next

Resources Mentioned

• Mindset by Carol Dweck
  https://www.amazon.com/Mindset-Psychology-Carol-S-Dweck/dp/0345472322

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