In this episode I explain how we have advanced past our ability to update our myths and stories and that religion needs a fundamental makeover to be updated for the modern times. I also explore what compatibility actually looks like, which I think is actually some really valuable stuff not just for those seeking partnership, but those in committed relationships.

00:28 - Where does being needed/counted on fall short of bringing meaning?

• Voluntarily wanting to be counted on
• Room for growth
• Some inherent meaning to the task

5:40 - What would a modern created religion look like? Is our development as humans outpacing our ability to alter our myths and stories? What was the state of humanity when religion came to be and how is that different than the way things are now.

• Society today is drastically different than it was when religion developed.
• It developed over a period of tens of thousands of years, the time our modern culture has had to touch it has been miniscule in comparison
• Cognitive needs: help people understand existence
• Emotional needs: hold pain, not escape it
• Social needs: reciprocal witness toward mutual attempts at living well
• Identity needs:meaning without dogma
• Temporal needs: rites of passage and rituals for real modern day events.

29:45 What model of compatibility can actually encapsulate the roots of relationships?

• Presence, affection, respect, meaning, commitment, closeness all show how if these foundations are off, compatibility is compromised
• You can’t change people. How someone is without editing is what you need to be compatible with
• Things like religious differences or goals differences really just boil down to these things under the hood