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Relationship Revolutions Podcast

Relationship Revolutions Podcast

By: Alan Watts - The Love Engineer
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 For professionals who lead in life, but feel lost in love. Hosted by Alan Watts, The Love Engineer, this bi-weekly podcast explores what happens in your nervous system when real love shows up. No fluff, no shame, just honest conversations about masculine presence, feminine radiance, conscious connection, and why strong women secretly crave surrender and nice guys desire their own leadership. You’re not broken. You’re just tired of doing it all or feeling boxed. Let’s build relationships that feel safe, sexy, and real. You can contact Alan directly via www.theloveengineer.rocksAlan Watts - The Love Engineer Relationships Social Sciences
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  • Why I Don't Do Traditional Couples Counselling (And What I Do Instead)

    Why I Don't Do Traditional Couples Counselling (And What I Do Instead)
    Feb 2 2026

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    Contact Info

    Alan Watts The Love Engineer, a coach whose mission is to help high-achieving, emotionally intelligent women stop pushing away the very men they say they long for. Combining wisdom in attachment, nervous system healing, and relational dynamics, Alan guides women from over-functioning, anxiety-driven patterns into presence, ease, and receiving love without losing themselves.

    With his signature approach, Alan unpacks the operating systems that silently sabotage attraction and teaches women how to rewire their bodies to trust steady masculine energy.

    His work isn’t about strategy or “dating hacks” it’s about nervous system upgrades, inner integration, and creating chemistry through safety.

    As host of Relationship Revolutions, Alan leads honest conversations about real love, the behind-the-scenes of how we heal, do less, and let the kind of men we claim to want finally feel possible.

    Website ⁠www.theloveengineer.rocks⁠

    Linked in ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/loveengineer/


    Summary


    In this episode, Alan Watts discusses a unique approach to relationship counseling that emphasises individual work before couples therapy. He critiques traditional counseling methods, suggesting they often leave individuals feeling stuck in emotional currents.


    Instead, he advocates for building a solid foundation on each side of the relationship before attempting to bridge the gap. This involves understanding personal blueprints, communication styles, and emotional needs. The conversation highlights the importance of self-awareness and personal growth in fostering healthy relationships.


    Takeaways


    Traditional counseling often leaves individuals feeling stuck.

    Building individual foundations is crucial before couples work.

    Each partner must understand their own relationship blueprint.

    Men often attend counseling to appease their partners.

    Emotional and logical elements must be balanced in relationships.

    The goal is not identical blueprints but understanding differences.

    Couples must be willing to do their own work.

    Conscious separation can sometimes be the healthiest option.

    Strong individuals create a strong relationship foundation.

    The relationship you want requires personal growth first.


    Chapters


    00:00 Introduction to Relationship Coaching

    03:29 The Flaws of Traditional Couples Counseling

    05:27 Building Individual Foundations

    07:12 The Bridge Building Process

    09:46 Understanding Relationship Blueprints

    11:18 Conclusion and Key Takeaways
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    13 mins
  • Porn Addiction Awareness Week

    Porn Addiction Awareness Week
    Jan 19 2026
    Contact InfoAlan Watts The Love Engineer, a coach whose mission is to help high-achieving, emotionally intelligent women stop pushing away the very men they say they long for. Combining wisdom in attachment, nervous system healing, and relational dynamics, Alan guides women from over-functioning, anxiety-driven patterns into presence, ease, and receiving love without losing themselves.With his signature approach, Alan unpacks the operating systems that silently sabotage attraction and teaches women how to rewire their bodies to trust steady masculine energy.His work isn’t about strategy or “dating hacks” it’s about nervous system upgrades, inner integration, and creating chemistry through safety.As host of Relationship Revolutions, Alan leads honest conversations about real love, the behind-the-scenes of how we heal, do less, and let the kind of men we claim to want finally feel possible.Website www.theloveengineer.rocksLinked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/loveengineer/Larissa Astara GrayLarissa Astara Gray is on a heartfelt mission to transform the way we talk about sex, connection and belonging. With her lived experience of trauma, recovery and reclamation, she brings authenticity, sensitivity and real world wisdom to conversations that are often shrouded in shame or silence.Drawing from years as a speaker, facilitator and educator, Larissa unpacks complex topics, from pornography’s hidden impact and consent dynamics, to how our early stories shape intimacy and how sexual self-worth ties into connected relationships.Website https://larissaastaragray.co.uk/Linked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/larissa-astara-gray-a98374202/SummaryIn this engaging conversation, Alan Watts, known as the Love Engineer, shares his transformative journey from a disastrous dating life to becoming a relationship coach.He discusses the importance of self-awareness, personal development, and the dynamics of modern relationships, including the impact of pornography and social media. Alan emphasises the need for healthy communication and consent in intimate relationships, while also addressing the challenges young men face in today's society. The discussion culminates in valuable insights and advice for the next generation on building meaningful connections and understanding their own identities.TakeawaysAlan's title as the Love Engineer reflects the blend of emotion and logic in relationships.His journey to coaching was born from personal challenges and a desire to help others.Self-awareness is crucial in understanding relationship dynamics.Many clients focus on external issues rather than their own contributions to relationship problems.The relationship with oneself is foundational to all other relationships.Education around porn and its effects on relationships is essential.Social media complicates modern relationships with instant gratification.Healthy masculinity involves balancing strength with emotional awareness.Young men should seek role models and define their own identities.Chapters01:06 Alan's Journey to Becoming a Relationship Coach04:45 Lessons Learned from Divorce and Personal Growth08:03 Understanding Client Dynamics in Relationship Coaching10:37 The Birth of Relationship Revolutions Podcast14:01 Exploring Resources Beyond Coaching15:58 Discussing Porn Education Awareness Week19:08 The Impact of Porn on Relationships22:45 The Importance of Emotional Safety in Intimacy24:15 Navigating Addiction and Healthy Boundaries28:32 The Party Life and Its Consequences29:58 Understanding Inner Change and Escapism31:04 The Impact of Social Media on Relationships33:54 The Dangers of Instant Gratification37:02 Body Count and Its Implications40:13 Empowerment vs. Exploitation in Modern Platforms41:48 Navigating Masculinity in Today's Society45:56 Finding Balance in Masculinity and Femininity48:10 Creating Your Own Identity and Relationships
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    45 mins
  • Is Love Enough?

    Is Love Enough?
    Jan 5 2026

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    Contact Info

    Alan Watts The Love Engineer, a coach whose mission is to help high-achieving, emotionally intelligent women stop pushing away the very men they say they long for. Combining wisdom in attachment, nervous system healing, and relational dynamics, Alan guides women from over-functioning, anxiety-driven patterns into presence, ease, and receiving love without losing themselves.

    With his signature approach, Alan unpacks the operating systems that silently sabotage attraction and teaches women how to rewire their bodies to trust steady masculine energy.

    His work isn’t about strategy or “dating hacks” it’s about nervous system upgrades, inner integration, and creating chemistry through safety.

    As host of Relationship Revolutions, Alan leads honest conversations about real love, the behind-the-scenes of how we heal, do less, and let the kind of men we claim to want finally feel possible.

    Website www.theloveengineer.rocks

    Linked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/loveengineer/


    Guest

    Peter The Speaker

    Peter is a speaker, coach, and facilitator who challenges the idea that love alone is enough to sustain a healthy relationship. Drawing on lived experience, deep self-inquiry, and years of working with people navigating real-world relationships, Peter speaks candidly about responsibility, boundaries, emotional maturity, and the work required to make love last.

    Find Peter on Linked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/peter-the-speaker-b5baa924a/


    Summary


    In this engaging conversation, Alan Watts and Peter the Speaker explore the intricacies of relationships, public speaking, and the importance of understanding oneself and one's partner.

    They discuss the journey to becoming a speaker, the significance of communication in relationships, and the role of humour and trust.

    The conversation also touches on marriage statistics, the impact of past experiences, and the fear of rejection, ultimately emphasising the need for self-awareness and mutual understanding in building lasting relationships.

    Takeaways


    Public speaking can stem from unique personal experiences.

    Understanding the 'why' behind relationships is crucial.

    Love alone is not sufficient for a successful relationship.

    Communication is key to understanding partners' needs.

    Humor plays a significant role in attraction and relationships.

    Trust and safety are foundational in any relationship.

    Past experiences can shape our perceptions and reactions.

    Self-awareness is essential for genuine connections.

    The fear of rejection can hinder relationship growth.

    Building relationships is akin to constructing a solid foundation.


    Chapters


    00:00 Introduction to Relationship Dynamics

    02:39 The Journey to Public Speaking

    05:06 The Birth of The Love Engineer

    07:26 Building Relationships Like Architecture

    11:19 Statistics and Realities of Relationships

    14:49 Is Love Enough for a Relationship?

    17:10 Understanding the 'Why' in Relationships

    22:50 Decision-Making in Relationships

    28:06 The Importance of Being Yourself

    32:43 Understanding Yourself: The First Step to Authenticity

    33:47 The Journey of Self-Discovery

    35:19 Navigating Rejection and Acceptance

    37:57 The Fear of Rejection in Relationships

    40:22 The Role of Humour in Relationships

    44:14 Stand-Up Comedy and Relationships

    45:40 The Importance of Knowing Your Why

    51:04 Listening: The Key to Strong Relationships

    54:49 Understanding Masculine and Feminine Energies
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    59 mins
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