We’re taught that real love should feel effortless… but the truth is that long-term love isn’t something you fall into and stay in automatically. It’s something you choose, nurture, and return to — again and again.

In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples (formerly known as Get Your Sexy Back for Couples) , Kim & Roberto break down the fairytale myth of effortless love and reveal what actually makes relationships thrive: repair, truth, emotional presence, and the willingness to grow together.

They share how old stories, early conditioning, and unconscious patterns shape adult relationships… and how choosing each other through the uncomfortable moments creates deeper safety, connection, and desire.

This episode is a powerful reminder that the couples who thrive aren’t the ones who avoid rupture — they’re the ones who repair with intention and love.

• Why the belief that love should be effortless sets couples up for disappointment and disconnection
• How childhood stories, family patterns, and early relationships quietly shape what we expect from love as adults
• Why growth triggers old wounds and how those unconscious patterns show up inside long-term relationships.
• How repair is an erotic superpower and why it strengthens connection far more than avoiding conflict ever could
• How choosing each other again and again creates long-term love that feels grounded, safe, intimate, and wildly fulfilling

Love isn’t effortless… It’s chosen. And when you choose each other with intention, your relationship becomes the most powerful place for healing and awakening.

✨ Save your spot for our upcoming February Couples Retreat: A sacred, guided experience for five couples ready to reconnect, heal, and reignite. Reserve your retreat spot here:

👉 https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/groupretreats

💫 If you have questions or want to talk before booking, you can schedule an Exploration Call here

https://calendly.com/talk-to-kim/exploration-call

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ABOUT US:

Kim & Roberto are the co-founders of Phoenix Rising Retreats, and the real-life couple behind the mic. Together, they guide couples into deeper body, mind, and soul-based connection through sacred sexuality, Tantra, conscious communication, and nervous system healing.

Kim is a teacher, speaker, and Bestselling Author, bringing years of trauma-informed, professionally certified Intimacy, Relationship & Tantra coaching experience to the podcast mic...

And Roberto joins her side, sharing his grounded masculine insight, hard-knocks inspired wisdom, and a refreshing no-BS perspective on what it actually takes to show up in love.

What started as their own late-night “date night” Tantric adventures turned into a life-changing journey... and now, a re-birthed podcast season for couples who are ready to reignite their passion, deepen their partnership, and rise together.

They’re here to tell the truth about what it means to build sacred partnership- not the filtered, social-media version, but the real, raw, beautifully messy kind that actually lasts.

Follow us below and continue the convo!

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Website - https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com

So many people carry the quiet fear that their trauma makes them flawed… broken… or unlovable.

In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples (formerly known as Get Your Sexy Back for Couples), we bring a grounded, compassionate truth: trauma doesn’t mean you’re damaged. It means you’re human. It means your nervous system adapted to survive.

They share vulnerable stories, body-based insights, and the patterns they see inside couples' work. From the shutdowns, the reactions, the fears, and why these aren’t personality flaws but protective strategies that were never witnessed or supported.

This episode is an invitation into self-compassion, emotional truth, and the kind of partnership that makes healing possible.

• Why most people misunderstand trauma and assume it only applies to the “big stuff,” missing the emotional paper cuts that shape adult intimacy
• How your nervous system creates protective patterns and why shutdown, defensiveness, or reactivity are intelligent survival responses
• How trauma shows up most clearly in relationships through conflict, avoidance, disconnection, and fear of vulnerability
• Why integration and not erasing the past, create emotional safety, embodiment, and deeper intimacy
• What happens when you finally feel safe enough for your trauma patterns to reveal themselves in partnership
• How conscious couples support each other’s healing through presence, curiosity, grounding, and truth

Trauma doesn’t make you damaged… it makes you human — and when held with love, it becomes the pathway to deeper connection.

✨ Save your spot for our upcoming February Couples Retreat: A sacred, guided experience for five couples ready to reconnect, heal, and reignite. Reserve your retreat spot here:

👉 https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/groupretreats

💫 If you have questions or want to talk before booking, you can schedule an Exploration Call here

https://calendly.com/talk-to-kim/exploration-call

🌙 Sign up for our newsletter to get up to date on everything we have coming and get your free resource of: 5 Simple Ways to Infuse Tantra into your Relationship here:

https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/tantra

ABOUT US:

Kim & Roberto are the co-founders of Phoenix Rising Retreats, and the real-life couple behind the mic. Together, they guide couples into deeper body, mind, and soul-based connection through sacred sexuality, Tantra, conscious communication, and nervous system healing.

Kim is a teacher, speaker, and Bestselling Author, bringing years of trauma-informed, professionally certified Intimacy, Relationship & Tantra coaching experience to the podcast mic...

And Roberto joins her side, sharing his grounded masculine insight, hard-knocks inspired wisdom, and a refreshing no-BS perspective on what it actually takes to show up in love.

What started as their own late-night “date night” Tantric adventures turned into a life-changing journey... and now, a re-birthed podcast season for couples who are ready to reignite their passion, deepen their partnership, and rise together.

They’re here to tell the truth about what it means to build sacred partnership- not the filtered, social-media version, but the real, raw, beautifully messy kind that actually lasts.

Follow us below and continue the convo!

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/kimberly.moore.coffin

Instagram -   https://www.instagram.com/get_your_sexy_back_coach/

TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@phoenix.rising.retreats

Website - https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com

There’s a cultural myth that desire fades with age… but the truth is far more powerful than that.
In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples (formerly known as Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples), we explore what really happens to erotic energy after 40… and why this stage of life can become your most sensual, confident, and pleasure-filled chapter yet.

We share vulnerable stories, body-based wisdom, and the exact practices that help women and men release shame, reconnect to their bodies, and rebuild erotic confidence that feels grounded, empowered, and deeply alive.

This episode is for anyone who wants their pleasure back… and is ready for a more soulful, embodied sexual connection.

• Why desire doesn’t fade with age… it deepens when shame and conditioning begin to fall away
• How early sexual messaging shapes your adult sexual confidence and why reclaiming it requires truth, safety, and nervous system repair
• For women: How slowing down, softening, embodiment, and inner permission awaken your erotic fire
• For men: How performance pressure, shame, and fear of failure block pleasure… and how presence reconnects them to their masculine erotic energy
• Why erotic energy after 40 is more powerful, intuitive, and grounded than anything you experienced in your twenties
• How to rebuild erotic confidence inside long-term relationships through truth, touch, safety, and conscious intimacy practices

✨ Save your spot for our upcoming February Couples Retreat: A sacred, guided experience for five couples ready to reconnect, heal, and reignite. Reserve your retreat spot here:

👉 https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/groupretreats

💫 If you have questions or want to talk before booking, you can schedule an Exploration Call here

https://calendly.com/talk-to-kim/exploration-call

🌙 Sign up for our newsletter to get up to date on everything we have coming and get your free resource of: 5 Simple Ways to Infuse Tantra into your Relationship here:

https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com/tantra

ABOUT US:

Kim & Roberto are the co-founders of Phoenix Rising Retreats, and the real-life couple behind the mic. Together, they guide couples into deeper body, mind, and soul-based connection through sacred sexuality, Tantra, conscious communication, and nervous system healing.

Kim is a teacher, speaker, and Bestselling Author, bringing years of trauma-informed, professionally certified Intimacy, Relationship & Tantra coaching experience to the podcast mic...

And Roberto joins her side, sharing his grounded masculine insight, hard-knocks inspired wisdom, and a refreshing no-BS perspective on what it actually takes to show up in love.

What started as their own late-night “date night” Tantric adventures turned into a life-changing journey... and now, a re-birthed podcast season for couples who are ready to reignite their passion, deepen their partnership, and rise together.

They’re here to tell the truth about what it means to build sacred partnership- not the filtered, social-media version, but the real, raw, beautifully messy kind that actually lasts.

Follow us below and continue the convo!

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/kimberly.moore.coffin

Instagram -   https://www.instagram.com/get_your_sexy_back_coach/

TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@phoenix.rising.retreats

Website - https://www.phoenixrisingretreats.com