After losing a husband, it can feel like a huge part of who you are disappeared too. In this episode, Vickie and Cindy talk about rebuilding identity from the inside out—starting with who you are in Christ, and then rediscovering who you are as a woman with preferences, strengths, dreams, and new courage. They share real examples of learning new skills, making big decisions solo, creating a home that fits you, and trying things you never thought you’d do on your own.

1) Your foundation: identity in Christ

They encourage widows to anchor themselves in “who you are in Him”—loved, free, able to have peace and joy—and to search scripture for every “in Him” reminder.

2) Discovering strength through hard moments

From moving furniture to changing a mower battery, they share how hard situations can reveal capability you didn’t know you had.

3) Learning to make decisions again—big ones

They talk about the reality of selling a home, buying a car, choosing a new place to live, and thinking through maintenance and support—one decision at a time.

4) New confidence: projects, plans, and God’s help

A story about building a sunroom becomes a picture of persistence, problem-solving, and trusting God in the process (even in the stressful parts).

5) Practical faith in real life

One moment of panic—rain leaking into the bedroom—turns into prayer, and a reminder of God’s protection and presence.

6) Permission to outsource + permission to decorate “like you”

They discuss choosing a lawn service (because it’s not your gift), and the freedom to make your home reflect you now.

7) Letting go, keeping what brings joy

When downsizing, Cindy shares a simple filter: keep only what brings joy—and release what doesn’t.

8) Try something new: movement, skills, creativity, travel

Roller skating at 68. Driving the boat yourself. Learning computers. Watercolor. Travel—even solo. These are all examples of reclaiming life and discovering new passions.

9) “Your story is yours now.”

They close with encouragement: the old chapter was real, but a new one is possible—don’t be afraid to pursue a dream.

1. 00:00–02:00 — Why identity in Christ matters after loss
2. 02:00–05:30 — New strengths: tools, repairs, big life decisions
3. 05:30–08:30 — Sunroom story: choosing courage, trusting God through the process
4. 09:00–12:30 — Rain leak + prayer + learning to outsource what you don’t want to carry
5. 12:30–15:30 — Decorating, downsizing, keeping what brings joy
6. 16:00–19:00 — Try something new (roller skating, boating, computers)
7. 19:00–23:00 — New passions (watercolor, travel, Grandma Moses) + final encouragement

1. “I can do all things in Him…”