hi hello hey, welcome to a normal day in our lives!

If you’ve heard even one episode of our show, you know we tend to save some of our best blind/disability moments for the pod to really bring our lovely listeners into our world. Whether it’s helpful perspective for listeners without disabilities or catharsis for listeners like us, we usually pull out the wildest ones.

What you may not know is that those big, shocking stories actually happen somewhat sparingly. The little moments? Those happen practically daily. They’re so normal to us that sometimes we don’t even think to share them with each other.

This episode is a collection of those moments — the quiet, low-key, blink-and-you’ll-miss-it (well… metaphorically) blindie experiences that make up our actual, everyday lives.

No dramatic plot twists. No public showdowns. Just the cozy, mildly chaotic reality of existing in the world as blind girls trying to find forks, navigate doctor’s offices, and keep it moving.

Because this is what disability looks like on a random Tuesday.

Ready for more story time, big or small? Check these episodes out:

• 31. too blind to be sighted; too sighted to be blind living in the “gray area” between sighted and blind.
• 40. this one’s tmi… some of our most unfiltered chronic illness stories.
• 52. our lives are just one long, awkward moment a series of uncomfy social situations caused by our low vision.
• 63. our uber funny rideshare stories some of our wildest (and weirdest) rideshare experiences.
• 79. our lives are one huge contradiction times we saw things we felt we shouldn’t… but couldn’t see things we should.
• 99. the unhappiest place on earth: discrimination at disneyland our humiliating attempt to get DAS at Disneyland in 2024.
• 104. did they really just say that?! a smattering of some of the most shocking things people have said to us
• 106. we’re delulu about what we look like in public why we can’t fake looking “normal” and the stories to prove it.
• 108. the wound that never heals: our discrimination stories the most deeply cutting discrimination we’ve experienced in our lives
• 112. a grocery delivery shopper yelled at cass?? chaos from the world of grocery delivery.
• 137. sorry, my brain was buffering stories of when our processing speed said “please hold.”

hi hello hey, get ready for a real love fest today

Do you ever spend so much time with someone that you slowly start becoming them? Or worse… you start liking things you swore you’d never like?

After nearly 12 years of friendship (and almost 6 years of being best friends), we’ve influenced each other in ways both small and genuinely life-altering. From music, style, and products to deeper things like our perspectives, habits, and who we’ve grown into as people, we honestly wouldn’t recognize our lives without each other in them.

This episode is exactly what it sounds like: a cute, sappy, slightly embarrassing bestie love fest. We talk about the ways we’ve shaped each other—sometimes intentionally, sometimes completely by accident—and how we’ve made each other better along the way.

So grab a cozy drink, settle in, and blame it on bestie.

Have we influenced you in any way, big or small? We’d love to hear about it! Send us an email at hello@rarewithflair.com.

for episodes we mention in this one, check out:

• 137. sorry, my brain was buffering our most recent episode on visual processing
• 135. our most ambitious vision boards yet!! for our 2026 vision boards
• 93. the great cardigan debate: our style roots for proof Cass used to be a cardigan hater
• 61. is reading an audiobook really reading? to hear about Cass’ grad school project on reading with low vision (and BARD Mobile!)
• 46.5. pale skin & green thumbs on our love for plants
• 34. shouting from the rooftops about assistive technology for proof Case used to be a dark mode hater
• 7. thank you for the music for proof that Cass used to be a Taylor Swift hater
• 1. intro: welcome to rare with flair! for our incentive of hearing Case’s “dog voice” for Rupert if we hit 100+ reviews
  • 51. blind beauty tips for actually hearing Case’s ridiculous dog voice (that is now part of Cass’ life)

for other cutesy episodes about friendship:

• 89. the moments that defined our ten-year friendship
• 77. only disabled friends talk about this
• 73. the alternate life where we wouldn’t be friends
• 34.5. are we really best friends? the ultimate friendship test

hi hello hey… oh, are you waving at us??

We’ve done many an episode about the unique situations we find ourselves in while navigating a world with limited vision, and this one offers a fresh take on a very enduring experience.

After living for 30 years (an average of our ages), we’ve realized our brains aren’t exactly built for speedy visual processing. When your vision is limited, your brain gets less information to work with—and sometimes it feels like it’s just… buffering. This isn’t a visual processing disorder; it’s simply our brains doing their best with what they’ve got.

The result? Occasional awkward pauses, missed cues, and moments where we look completely spaced out. But there’s also a flip side. Because we don’t get bogged down in tiny visual details, our brains have learned to compensate in pretty cool ways. We make decisions based on shapes, colors, patterns, and context—and honestly, we’re often surprisingly accurate. (And when we’re not, the fails are at least validating proof to our friends that no, we’re not being dramatic about our vision.)

If you want more proof that our eyes love putting us in funny situations, check out these episodes:

• 52. our lives are just one long, awkward moment for more on navigating social situations with low vision.
• 114. please, read the room!!! on choosing our battles—when to disclose and ask for accommodations, and when to let things go.
• 17. do we want a cure? our thoughts on not fixing our vision.

And an episode we reference in this one:

• 107. blind gamer girlies on playing video games with low vision.