In this compelling episode, Dr. David Puder sits down with New York Times bestselling author and psychotherapist Daniel Smith to explore his latest book, Hard Feelings: Finding the Wisdom in Our Darkest Emotions. They dive deep into the often-avoided world of "negative" emotions like shame, envy, and annoyance, revealing how these hard feelings carry profound wisdom rather than being obstacles to banish. Drawing from Smith's personal experiences, they discuss double binds, screen memories, dissociation, and the freezing response that shame can trigger. The conversation also covers annoyance as a temperament trait tied to highly sensitive, hyperpermeable nervous systems, noise sensitivity struggles, links to traits like idealization/devaluation in borderline patterns, and much more. Listen now for raw, insightful reflections on emotional authenticity and mental health.

By listening to this episode, you can earn 2.0 Psychiatry CME Credits.

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In this episode, Dr. Puder engages in a profound conversation with Dr. Douglas Flemons, a seasoned marriage and family therapist and author of the newly released Empathic Engagement in Clinical Practice. Drawing from over 30 years of supervising family therapists, Dr. Flemons redefines empathy as an active, pursued skill rather than a passive feeling, distinguishing it sharply from sympathy. Explore common misconceptions, the pitfalls of sympathetic responses, debates on cognitive versus affective empathy, the role of microexpressions and universal affective states, and practical strategies for building genuine therapeutic connections without imposing interpretations or judgment.

By listening to this episode, you can earn 1.25 Psychiatry CME Credits.

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In this episode, we welcome psychiatrists Dr. Jennifer Reid (author of Guilt Free: Reclaiming Your Life from Unreasonable Expectations) who explores why guilt feels so overwhelming amid post-COVID pressures, perfectionism, and endless roles. Dr. Reid and Dr. Puder differentiate guilt from shame, highlighting adaptive healthy guilt for repairing relationships versus maladaptive generalized guilt tied to depression, anxiety, burnout, and cognitive distortions. The discussion covers childhood roots like parentification and socialization, narcissism's reduced guilt, therapist/doctor identity struggles with moral injury, and practical strategies like boundary-setting, reframing expectations, and safely referring unsafe patients without guilt. Ideal for anyone battling unreasonable self-expectations, mental health providers seeking tools to manage guilt in patients and themselves, or listeners wanting to break free and reclaim emotional freedom through self-compassion and realistic accountability.

By listening to this episode, you can earn 1.0 Psychiatry CME Credits.

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