815. Why do kids sometimes get defensive, shut down, or lash out after they’ve made a mistake, broken a rule or hurt someone’s feelings? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor explains how to compassionately help children notice their impact without shame, while helping them take meaningful steps toward repairing relationship ruptures through the action-based making of amends.

Sources:

McCloud, C. (2018). Buckets, dippers, and lids: Secrets to your happiness. Bucket Fillers.

Sandland, B. (2025). Neurodivergent Experiences of Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria Expose the Environmental Factors too Often Overlooked. Neurodiversity, 3. https://doi.org/10.1177/27546330251394516

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814. Is making sure your child isn’t a doormat feel fraught with worry about them being “too aggressive”? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor guides parents through the foundational skills of respectful self-advocacy and how to cultivate them in your child, helping your child move through social challenges with more self-understanding and ease.

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Have you ever felt embarrassed because your child forgot to say "thank you"? This week, Dr. Nanika Coor answers a listener email and gives you 8 tips for helping your child develop gratitude. (Originally published November 21, 2021.)

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813. Does your child’s screen use spark tension when you get together with extended family? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor unpacks why family gatherings can amplify digital-device disagreements and how understanding your child’s needs can help you set boundaries with more clarity and calm. Learn how to protect your child’s unique needs and stay connected when opinions collide.

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812. In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor explains how unresolved relational trauma can fuel a parent's reactive anger, and how understanding your own nervous system can help you respond to your child in more connected, calm, and intentional ways.

Sources:

https://cptsdfoundation.org/what-is-complex-post-traumatic-stress-disorder-cptsd/

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811. When your ADHD child is struggling, do you worry they’re acting out on purpose? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor unpacks the concept of executive function deficits in young people, and how shifting your perspective from "won't" to "can't" can help you respond to big emotions and challenging routines with more compassion and connection.

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Do your mornings feel like chaos on repeat? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor guides parents through creating calmer, more connected morning routines - even when executive function challenges, sibling conflict, and real-life pressures make smooth starts feel impossible. Learn practical tools for cooperation, compassion, and ease before your day even gets going.

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809. Why does the urge to intervene feel so overwhelming? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor unpacks the anxiety and external pressures that fuel your need to "fix" your child's life - and how noticing your own internal experience can help you respond with respectful, connected, and liberating presence instead.

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