Dr. Rob and authors Lindsey Stanley and Dr. Stevie Hall continue their conversation about therapeutic separation, focusing on the impact that separation can have on children at different ages and stages. They explore ways to prove safety and stability for children throughout the process, navigating family events during separation, and why couples therapy may not be appropriate during a period of separation. This conversation provides exceptional insights into a critical step of healing after betrayal that can result in a stronger partnership.

TAKEAWAYS:

[1:22] External factors that contribute to the pressure of separation or divorce.

[3:16] Explaining separation to children in healthy and age-appropriate ways.

[7:00] Taking appropriate ownership in the face of external influences and challenges.

[10:09] Providing safety and stability for children despite anger and pain.

[11:22] Navigating family events throughout therapeutic separation.

[13:45] Building trust during the therapeutic separation process.

[16:56] The challenges of therapeutic separation when affairs are involved.

[19:02] Couples therapy may not be appropriate during a period of separation.

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QUOTES:

• “Share with children what is in their best health and wellness to know.”
• “You can acknowledge the pain and hurt to your kids, but you don’t necessarily have to share all the things with them.”
• “There needs to be an agreed upon script when disclosing to children.”
• “Privacy and honesty are different things.”