Why consistency doesn’t work for ADHD brains — and how learning to come back without shame creates real change.

If you’ve ever felt like you can’t stick with anything — routines, organizing, decluttering, goals, or New Year’s resolutions — this episode is for you.

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In this episode, Megs talks honestly about why starting over is not failure, especially for ADHD brains. She breaks down why so many systems don’t stick, how social media narratives can quietly box people with ADHD into believing there are things they “just can’t do,” and what actually creates sustainable change.

This conversation is about the messy middle — the part no one posts about. The part where motivation fades, routines fall apart, planners get abandoned, and shame creeps in. And why that middle isn’t a problem to fix — it’s where learning happens.

Instead of pushing consistency, Megs introduces a more realistic (and ADHD-friendly) concept: persistence — the ability to come back without shame, even after you forget, avoid, or fall off.

This episode is a gentle but powerful reminder that:

• Your ADHD brain is not broken
• You’re not lazy or inconsistent
• You don’t need to change everything at once
• And there is always a moment you can begin again

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01:03 — How Social Media Shapes ADHD Beliefs

02:31 — Why the New Year Feels Like a Reset for ADHD

03:22 — Noticing ADHD Patterns That Block Change

05:55 — Persistence vs Consistency for ADHD Brains

09:12 — Organizing Strategies That Actually Work With ADHD

19:52 — Why ADHD Community and Support Matter

24:33 — Microdosing Mindfulness for ADHD Overwhelm

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You know that moment when you walk into a room and your whole body reacts before your brain even has time to make sense of it? That’s what today’s episode is really about, how clutter hits the nervous system first, and how that shapes everything from motivation to avoidance to why that one corner has been haunting you for months.

In this episode, I’m sharing the real, lived experience behind regulation, what it is, why it matters, and how it changes the way ADHD women interact with their homes. We walk through each protection pattern (fight, flight, freeze, appease) in a way that helps you see yourself with clarity instead of shame.

You’ll hear more about my own journey with understanding regulation, the resources that shifted everything for me, and why this work matters so much if you’ve spent years thinking, “Why can’t I just do this?”
My mission: to help you rebuild self-trust, one tiny regulated moment at a time.

If this episode resonates, I’d love to hear where clutter shows up in your nervous system. Your stories help other women feel less alone.

01:17 — Personal Updates and Reflections
02:47 — Understanding Regulation and ADHD
05:15 — Personal Journey into Regulation
10:31 — Reactions to Clutter: Fight Mode
15:11 — Reactions to Clutter: Flight Mode
17:42 — Reactions to Clutter: Freeze Mode
20:18 — Reactions to Clutter: Appease Mode
23:08 — Final Thoughts and Community Updates

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In today’s episode, you’ll meet Anishia Denee — a board certified behaviour analyst, ADHD coach, and founder of Authentic Self ADHD Coaching. She helps adults make sense of their patterns, shift from shame into curiosity, and build strategies that actually fit their strengths, values, and capacity. Her blend of behavior analysis, ADHD coaching, and lived experience offers such grounded, compassionate support for real ADHD life.

Website link: https://www.authenticselfadhd.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anishiab/

Threads: https://www.threads.com/@anishiab

We talk about:
• using behavior analysis to build supportive rhythms
• recognizing and celebrating tiny wins
• navigating the messy middle
• making decluttering easier on your nervous system
• what to do when executive function taps out
• how community + self-awareness change everything

This is a gentle, encouraging conversation that reminds you:
You don’t need to be consistent to make progress — you just need to keep returning to yourself. (persistence)

01:47 — Anisha’s Background and Journey
How she went from behavior analysis into ADHD coaching — and why her personal story matters.

04:49 — Behavior Analysis and ADHD Coaching
How behavior principles can support ADHD brains without shame or rigidity.

07:16 — Understanding and Embracing Personal Values
Why values-based living makes rhythms stick more than motivation ever will.

11:46 — Managing Clutter and Environment
Realistic strategies for building a home that supports (not drains) your brain.

15:16 — Navigating the Messy Middle
Progress isn’t linear — here’s how to stay steady when it feels chaotic.

19:27 — The Value of Coaching Through Challenges
Why co-regulation, support, and outside perspective matter so much for ADHD women.

21:21 — Basic Needs and Self-Compassion
A gentle reminder that sleep, food, and rest are foundational — not optional.

23:13 — Community, Creativity, and ADHD
How connection makes follow-through possible, and why creativity is a strength, not a flaw.

25:03 — Experimentation and Personalization
There is no one-size-fits-all. Learn to test tiny adjustments and honor what actually works for you.

29:18 — Noticing Progress and Releasing Perfectionism
How to see the tiny victories your brain tends to overlook.

32:38 — Behavior Analysis and Understanding Triggers
Why your reactions aren’t personal failures — they’re patterns you can understand.

33:55 — Connecting and Finding Support
How coaching, community, and safe people help you break old ADHD cycles.

35:40 — Final Thoughts and Encouragement
A gentle send-off reminding you that small shifts build real confidence over time.

Share your thoughts with Megs!

Would you like to learn more about hiring Megs as your ADHD coach? Start here> The Perfect Place to Start

The Community is OPEN! Join right here: Organizing an ADHD Brain

You can also learn more about the community HERE> OrganizinganADHDBrain.com