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Not By Chance Podcast

Not By Chance Podcast

By: Dr. Tim Thayne
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It’s hard to define what a successful and happy family is, much less how to achieve one. Dr. Tim Thayne, a thought-leader in teen treatment and parent coaching, shares inspiring best practices gleaned from decades of his own and other expert’s work related to intentional family living. Whether your family is in the midst of a major struggle or you are looking for fresh ideas to help you prioritize and enhance your home life, this podcast is for you.

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Episodes
  • Marriage First: The Foundation of Effective Parenting | Mike Gurr
    Sep 5 2025

    Ever felt like you're juggling flaming torches while trying to parent a troubled teen? Get ready to transform that precarious act into a masterful performance as Mike Gurr and Tim Thayne explore the art of intentional parenting after treatment. This episode of "Not By Chance" is your backstage pass to creating a family culture that's not just stable, but thriving.

    Mike Gurr, with his 23 years in the mental health trenches, shares his playbook for keeping your marriage strong even when your teen's struggles threaten to consume everything. You'll learn why putting on your own oxygen mask first isn't just a cliché—it's the cornerstone of effective parenting. And parents, are you ready for a paradigm shift? Discover the "inverted triangle" approach that evolves with your child, from toddler tantrums to teenage turbulence.

    We're tackling the elephant in the room—respect. What does it really mean in your family? How do you model it when you're at your wit's end? Mike and Tim offer practical strategies that will have you and your teen speaking the same language of mutual understanding.

    And for those of you navigating the tricky waters of post-treatment life, we've got your back. Learn about the sneaky "deep breath syndrome" and how to avoid slipping back into old patterns. It's time to turn your family's journey into a story of strength and growth.

    This isn't just a podcast episode—it's a blueprint for building unshakeable family bonds. Brought to you by Trustyy, the app that's revolutionizing how families stay connected and accountable. So, buckle up, parents. You're about to embark on a transformative ride that'll have you parenting with confidence, intention, and yes, even joy. Welcome to the family revolution, where every challenge is an opportunity to grow stronger together.

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    57 mins
  • Freedom as Fuel: The Science of Motivating Teens
    Aug 21 2025

    Ready to revolutionize your approach to teen independence? Join Dr. Tim Thayne and Roxanne Thayne as they unpack the power of freedom as a motivator in this eye-opening episode of "Not By Chance." We're diving deep into the world of intentional parenting, where trust becomes your secret weapon and your teen's autonomy isn't just respected—it's celebrated.

    Ever felt like you're constantly battling over freedoms with your teen? We've got game-changing strategies that'll transform those conflicts into collaborations. Discover how to craft "slip-up plans" that put your teen in the driver's seat of their own accountability. It's not about clamping down—it's about building guardrails that guide without confining.

    We're pulling back the curtain on Trustyy, the revolutionary app that's changing the parent-teen dynamic. This AI-powered ally helps your teen create mature, well-thought-out plans for earning freedoms, all without you lifting a finger. It's like having a wise mentor in your teen's pocket, guiding them towards independence with savvy and style.

    From overindulgent to fear-based parenting, we're breaking down the pitfalls and offering a fresh perspective that'll have your teen not just listening, but actively engaging in their own growth. This isn't just another parenting lecture—it's a roadmap to a harmonious household where respect flows both ways and your teen's potential soars.

    Lastly, Tim will be will be featured on TIC · Talk 2025 — a one-day conference created by clinicians for professionals supporting teens and families through crisis, trauma, and major life transitions. Held on October 10th in Layton, UT, this event offers 6.5 CEUs and stands out as a meaningful, practical gathering for therapists and care providers, we would love to see you there!

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    42 mins
  • They're Wired for Freedom, Are You Wired to Let Go?
    Aug 14 2025

    Ready to revolutionize your approach to parenting teens? Join Dr. Tim Thayne and his wife Roxanne as they unpack a groundbreaking shift in teen treatment and family dynamics. This episode of "Not By Chance" challenges the old control-based parenting model, replacing it with a fresh perspective that honors your teen's innate drive for autonomy.

    Discover why giving your teenager more freedom—not less—might be the key to unlocking their potential. The Thaynes share personal stories and professional insights that will transform how you view trust, competence, and the delicate balance of power in your home. You'll learn why allowing early failures can lead to lasting success, and how to parent from a place of belief rather than fear.

    From navigating homework struggles to celebrating moments of genuine competence, this episode is packed with practical wisdom. The Thaynes introduce Trustyy, an innovative app designed to support this new parenting paradigm, and offer a free tool at trustandfreedom.trustyy.com to help you create a plan for your teen to earn back freedom.

    Whether you're a parent in the thick of teen challenges or a professional working with families, this episode promises to shift your perspective and equip you with strategies to foster trust, encourage responsibility, and ultimately, set your teen up for a future of success. Don't miss this chance to be part of a parenting revolution that aligns with your teen's natural development and strengthens your family bonds.

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    27 mins
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