What is marriage actually for? What is sex for?

The way we answer these questions reveal the stories we tell ourselves and each other. So then: what is the story we see unfolding in the Bible? And what would it look like for the Christian story to be our primary narrative?

In this episode, Tyler Parker takes us through the first part of the Biblical story. God’s kingdom on earth, how human marriage plays a role, what makes marriage a unique relationship, good stuff. And then we touch on the Christian story’s implications for same-sex marriage, serial monogamy, hookup relationships, and other expressions of sexuality.

And then we realized this was a big topic and saved a few questions to Part 2. Stay tuned for that!

[Part 2 link will appear here when it’s published.]

Finally: We note the need for a Catholic voice to join this conversation, so—if you have a recommendation, please get in touch!

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Note: This episode uses the terms “Side A” and “Side B” (and X, Y) as shorthand. If you’re new to the conversation, you might find it helpful to check out episode #3, where we talk through the four “sides”: ⁠#3 - A-B-Y-X | 4 Sides on SSA/Gay Sexuality⁠

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★ Timestamps

(00:00) #68 - The Christian Story of Sex and Marriage with Tyler Parker (Part 1)

(03:58) Why we start with narrative

(08:08) The Bible's creation myth: a God who makes order from chaos

(12:56) The dimorphic expression of God's image

(20:14) God rested: He made a home for himself, with humans

(26:00) "Ezer": a helper who does what you cannot

(30:16) "Kenegdo": marriage isn't just union, it's REunion.

(41:47) A symbol of fruitfulness--but what is a symbol? We note the need for a Catholic voice.

(54:18) What about the church and other communities? Does marriage "colonize" all the good things about human unions?

(01:03:11) "Porneia": what is NOT good, in God's narrative

(01:17:23) In which we decide we'll need a Part 2

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★ Send us feedback, questions, comments, and support!

Email: communionandshalom@gmail.com | Instagram: @newkinship | Substack: @newkinship | Patreon: @newkinship

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★ Credits

Co-Hosts: David Frank, TJ Espinoza, Tyler Parker | Audio Engineer: Carl Swenson, carlswensonmusic.com | Podcast Manager: Elena F. | Graphic Designer: Gavin Popken, gavinpopkenart.com ★

My recent friend Faith, who I met at an OTL Dialogue, has a gift for questions. So when Faith expressed interest in asking me about my community living situation, I was grateful she was up for recording our call, because she’s a careful thinker who understands systems from a deep rootedness in the organic nature of community and personhood. And boy, did she make me think and reflect.

Leaving our conversation, I’m left with questions for how to make my community house wiser, more developed, more mature. I’m left wondering how we can develop rituals of modifying our covenant, rituals of remembering our values and vision, on staying attuned to different nodes of awareness on the health of the community, and on encouraging multiple nodes of community ownership.

(00:00) Introductions

(03:38) Foundations of Intentional Community

(08:58) Values and Practices in Community Living

(16:17) Conflict Resolution and Community Dynamics

(28:11) Navigating Household Dynamics, Clutter, and Values

(29:50) Leadership Challenges for Enneagram 2s

(32:25) Balancing External and Internal Responsibilities

(40:45) The Process of Housemate Transitions

(44:15) Future Aspirations and Neighborhood Integration

In this bonus review episode of Revoice 2025, TJ and David (and a couple friends at the end) discuss their experiences at the recent Revoice 2025 conference held in Seattle, Washington. What we forgot to mention in the recording was how incredible the “Build” theme was this year, as the different main speakers walked us through Nehemiah and Art really hit it out of the ballpark with his exhortations for the Side B community (and its friends and allies) to get to work seeking the Kingdom of God. It was powerful.

Some highlights mentioned included the various speakers (including Mwendia, Wesley Hill, Anna Carter from Eden Invitation, and Julia Sadusky), the worship team led by Wes, and spaces to make meaningful connections. We offer a couple tips to attendees for making future conferences enjoyable (like affinity groups, communal living arrangements).

Check out Revoice for next year! https://www.revoice.org/