This week, we’re moving beyond the trauma buzzwords to explain why you feel the way you do and what it really means to begin healing from relational trauma.

You’ll learn:

• What trauma looks like for daughters of narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers

• The everyday symptoms of complex trauma (even if you’ve never been diagnosed)

• How the nervous system responds to childhood trauma and why it’s not your fault

• A five-phase healing framework that honors your pace and nervous system capacity

• Why this work starts with your relationship to yourself, before anything else
  

• Whether you’re just starting your trauma recovery journey or deep in the process, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and a way forward.

  
  

  
  

If you’ve ever felt like your anxiety is “too much” or your grief is “too messy,” you belong here.

Today, meet a daughter of a covertly narcissistic mother who didn’t begin to connect the dots until after her mother’s death. What follows is an honest, layered conversation about complex grief, panic attacks that don’t seem to make sense, and the painful tug-of-war between loyalty and truth.

Together, we explore:

• Why panic in adulthood is often a trauma memory, not a present problem

• The link between narcissistic mothers and hypervigilant nervous systems

• How “should” becomes a survival strategy and why it now feels like self-betrayal

• What it means to grieve a mother who was never emotionally safe

• How memory reconsolidation happens even after a parent's death

• Why waking up to your story years later doesn’t mean the trauma wasn’t real

If you were the daughter who raised yourself, who became the emotional caretaker in childhood, or who still feels guilty for feeling relief after loss, this conversation will help you feel less alone, less crazy, and more understood.

Grief isn’t linear. Panic isn’t random. And your healing gets to make sense to you, even if no one else understands it yet.

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Have you ever wondered: Am I always in a trauma response? Is everything I feel just about my past? If so, you’re not alone and you’re not wrong for asking.

Today we break down the differences between trauma brain, nervous system dysregulation, and normal emotional responses.

When you’ve survived a narcissistic or emotionally limited mother, it’s easy to feel like every reaction you have is suspect. But healing isn’t about becoming unbothered. It's about knowing what deserves to bother you.

We also explore why some daughters feel overwhelmed by being chosen, even as they grieve the pain of being left. Whether it’s friendship, dating, or family relationships, many daughters of narcissistic mothers carry deep nervous system patterns that can make connection feel confusing or unsafe.

In this episode, you’ll learn: The difference between trauma brain and dysregulation, and why knowing the distinction matters Why not every reaction, frustration, or irritation is a trauma response. You'll learn how your nervous system protects you, even when there’s no immediate danger, and what to do when being wanted makes you shut down.

We'll also touch on how to tell if your response is about the moment or about memory.

And lastly, we'll explore how healing means you get to choose what matters to you instead of defaulting to what your trauma tells you should

We cover key trauma-informed themes like:

Nervous system regulation and trauma responses

Self-trust vs. over-pathologizing

How daughters of narcissistic mothers respond to intimacy and belonging

Feeling "too much" or "too sensitive" after trauma

Why grief, loss, and closeness can coexist

This episode is for you if:

You’re tired of feeling like your trauma explains everything You want to stop spinning when people pull away or lean in You’re learning how to hear your wise mind instead of only your trauma brain

Mentioned in this episode:

Mayhem Daughters, our online community for daughters

Tuesday Group, Thursday Group

Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things