In this episode of Mindfully Masculine, Charles and Dan dive into Chapters 3 and 4 of The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins—where things get uncomfortably real about stress, overreaction, and the fantasy of control. From checkout-line rage to masculine stoicism, this conversation blends psychology, philosophy, and a fair bit of sarcasm.

We cover:

• Why your brain reacts to traffic like it’s a war zone
• The myth of “taking control” vs. the power of staying calm
• Stoicism: misunderstood, misused, and still incredibly useful
• What masculinity looks like under pressure (hint: it’s not loud)
• The ABC Loop: how meaning hijacks your response
• Why reacting with less intensity is still a heroic choice

Charles admits he's (occasionally) open to being wrong. Dan shares his personal stress hacks. And both wrestle with what it really means to pause, respond, and lead with clarity—especially when your nervous system has other plans.

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In this episode of Mindfully Masculine, Charles dives into Chapters 1 and 2 of The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins—and let’s just say, it gets heated early.

From micromanaging her son’s prom to being left off a girls’ trip, Mel lays out the moments that inspired her viral advice: “Let them.” But is it personal growth… or just a new way to dodge accountability?

Charles pulls no punches, questioning whether Mel’s stories reflect real insight or just strategic rebranding. Along the way, he explores control, shame spirals, friendship dynamics, and why some of us might not get invited to the party (and maybe shouldn’t).

You’ll hear:
– Why that prom corsage story is driving Charles up a wall
– The missing middle ground between shame and detachment
– How “let them” might become emotional bypassing without the right reflection
– Dan’s personal connection to the control struggle—and what he wishes he’d heard sooner
– A brutally honest take on whether The Let Them Theory is a breakthrough or just good marketing

Whether you’re a control freak in recovery or just wondering why you didn’t get that group text, this one’s for you.

Next up: Chapters 3 and 4—where stress, control, and identity collide.

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⚠️ Season 3 finale spoilers ahead! Plus content note for frank discussions of murder, suicide, and murder-suicide.

In this final episode of Mindfully Masculine’s deep dive into The White Lotus, Season 3, Charles and Dan unpack the unraveling masculinity on full display in the finale. From Timothy’s narcissistic delusions of control 🧠, to Rick’s self-destructive spiral disguised as vengeance 🔫, to Gaitok’s late-game moral compromise 🤐—this one’s about what happens when fragile egos try to play God.

We ask: What does “protecting your family” really mean? When does suffering become selfish? And how do men like Saxon learn—too late—that performance won’t earn them real connection?

Also in the mix:
– Why Piper’s breakdown is more honest than it looks 😭
– What happens when someone finally runs toward Rick (instead of away) 🏃‍♀️💔
– And why we’ll never stop talking about that blender 🥤

Find full audio and video episodes at mindfullymasculine.com—and stick around, because next up we’re diving into The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins. 📘

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