Chapter 8: Loneliness of the Long-Distance Runner

Part 3 of The Runner’s Paradox quietly dims the spotlight: this time we’re not chasing paces, we’re chasing presence.

In a conversation that’s equal parts wit and wonder, we invite you into the lonely miles where silence becomes your most honest running partner.

We explore the “missing witness” that haunts every long-distance runner, unpacking how thousands of Strava likes can still leave you feeling invisible, and how social media’s applause can ring hollow.

We reflect on solitude as both sanctuary and rupture, drawing on cutting-edge research into loneliness in sport, psychological rest in athletes, and the hard-won difference between being alone and being lonely.

By the end, we’re not just running through Chapter 8 of The Runner’s Paradox—we’re reinhabiting it.

Based on The Runner’s Paradox by Mok Ying Rong, available now for purchase at therunnersparadox.com.

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New research explored beyond the book (2023-2025)

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Eccles, D. W., Caviedes, G., Balk, Y. A., Harris, N., & Gretton, T. W. (2021). How to help athletes get the mental rest needed to perform well and stay healthy. Journal of Sport Psychology in Action, 12(4), 259–270. https://doi.org/10.1080/21520704.2021.187320

Hawkley, L. C., & Cacioppo, J. T. (2010). Loneliness matters: A theoretical and empirical review of consequences and mechanisms. Annals of Behavioral Medicine, 40, 218–227. ​Tubed, T., Đorđević, V., Đorđević, D., & Đorđević, M. (2023). Loneliness and physical activity in children and adolescents: A systematic review. Children, 10(2), 276. https://doi.org/10.3390/children10020276

Zhou, F., Liu, Y., Huang, X., Zhang, M., & Chen, H. (2025). Body image, loneliness, and physical activity: A bidirectional relationship. Scientific Reports, 15, Article 12124. https://doi.org/10.1038/s41598-025-16307-8

Eagleton, S., Alford, J., & Patel, M. (2025). The role of sport in tackling loneliness: More complex than it seems. Tackling Loneliness Hub. https://tacklinglonelinesshub.org/the-role-of-sport-in-tackling-loneliness-more-complex-than-it-seems/