In this episode of Meredyth with a Why, I sit down with Dr. Diane Mueller for a real conversation about sex, desire, and intimacy when life is busy and the mental load is heavy. We talk about what actually helps women want sex again, how to reconnect without pressure, and why small shifts can change your relationship and your health.

What you’ll learn:

• Desire vs arousal, why many women need arousal first, then desire, and how a calm 20 minute warm up rebuilds connection.

• The attention gap, men’s laser focus vs women’s diffuse awareness, and simple ways to quiet the mind and get back into your body.

• Perimenopause and menopause, when bioidentical hormone replacement therapy helps, and why it is only part of women’s sexual health.

• Oxytocin 101, how orgasm boosts oxytocin, lowers cortisol, improves sleep and mood, and supports overall wellness.

• The values pie, a quick time audit that shows whether your partner actually has space in your day.

• Five daily touchpoints, easy flirting with no endgame so touch feels safe and sweet again.

• Better conversations, uncouple touch from expectation, use praise that lands, and plug the tiny leaks that create resentment.

If you are navigating low libido, perimenopause, intimacy after kids, or communication in marriage, this episode gives you practical, evidence informed sex education you can use tonight. So tune in now!

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00:00 Introducing Dr. Diane Mueller

00:52 The Taboo of Sex and Communication Struggles

02:32 Personal Journey and Discoveries

06:40 Applying Knowledge in Relationships

12:04 Understanding Arousal and Desire

19:00 Hormone Replacement and Oxytocin Benefits

24:27 Historical and Societal Influences on Sexuality

31:33 Parenting Challenges and Sexuality

33:31 The Importance of Communication in Relationships

35:22 The Role of Education in Sexual Health

41:39 Touch and Emotional Connection

48:23 Oxytocin and Attachment in Young People

56:40 Final Thoughts

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🔗 Connect with Dr. Diane Mueller:

• Visit her website: drdianemueller.com

• LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/drdianemueller

YouTube: www.youtube.com/@mylibidodoc

In this powerful and refreshingly honest episode, Meredyth sits down with N.L. Holmes—former nun, archaeologist, professor, and now a prolific historical fiction author with 15 novels to her name. Together, they unpack her extraordinary life journey, touching on identity, faith, reinvention, and how the past still mirrors the present.

You’ll hear about:

• Her 20 years in a cloistered convent—the silence, the solitude, the internal doubts, and the moment she knew it was time to leave.

• Reentering the “real world” at 40—from learning computers and credit cards to earning a PhD and excavating ancient ruins in Israel and Greece.

• Becoming a historical fiction author—how she turns forgotten historical figures and political upheaval into compelling mystery series.

• Reflections on faith, shame, and the modern Church—including honest thoughts on institutional failures, celibacy, and spiritual growth.

• The powerful connection between past and present—and why understanding ancient civilizations might be the key to navigating today’s world.

This conversation is a thoughtful blend of humor, history, and humanity. Whether you're fascinated by religious life, drawn to archaeology, or love historical fiction rooted in real events, this episode will leave you thinking deeply about reinvention, resilience, and the stories we carry.

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00:00 Introducing NL Holmes

03:13 Life Inside the Convent

13:06 Why She Left

19:15 Always a Matter of Your Choice

36:53 The Hittite Series and Historical Grounding

37:55 Lord Hani Mysteries and Historical Basis

40:05 Exploring Modern Parallels

41:56 Reflections on Human Nature and History

45:45 The Absurdity of Race and Education

51:32 Writing and Future Plans

56:11 Conclusion

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🔗 Connect with N.L Holmes:

• Visit her website: www.nlholmes.com

• FaceBook page: www.facebook.com/NLHolmes

📚 N.L.’s latest book, The Melody of Evil, is available on Amazon and wherever books are sold. Get a copy before it runs out.

In this powerful episode of Meredyth with a Why, host Meredyth Willits sits down with intuitive author, healer, and psychic medium Rebecca J. Rowan to talk about her raw and transformative memoir Healing Becky. It’s a soul-shaking book that’s helping people everywhere face their trauma, rewrite their past, and reclaim their future.

Meredyth shares how the book cracked open a part of her she didn’t know could heal. Together, she and Rebecca explore the deeply personal and spiritual process of confronting generational pain, breaking family cycles, and choosing healing, even when it's messy, inconvenient, or terrifying.

Together, they dive into:
✅ What inspired Rebecca to write Healing Becky and why it took three years
✅ How her mother’s death sparked a life-changing spiritual download
✅ The real reason trauma survivors often need to take breaks while reading
✅ Why Rebecca calls Gen X the “no more” generation and what it’s here to do
✅ Her journey from surviving abuse to connecting with her higher self
✅ How her children gave her the courage to face her past and change her legacy
✅ Religion, reprogramming, and learning to meet your pain with truth instead of shame

Plus, Rebecca opens up about…
✨ Writing graphic chapters while reliving her trauma and how she got through it
✨ Her mother’s final days and how they found peace before it was too late
✨ The conversation that made Meredyth realize she didn’t want to die angry at her parents
✨ Why many abusers “sign up” to be the bad guy and the higher soul lessons behind it
✨ What the Halls of Healing are and how Rebecca’s visit changed everything
✨ Why the silence was killing her and why she chose to write the truth anyway

Whether you’re on your own healing path, navigating complex family relationships, or simply ready to let go of inherited pain, this episode is for you. Rebecca reminds us that healing is possible. Love can rise from the wreckage. There is profound purpose in our pain.

00:00 Welcome back, meet Rebecca Rowan

01:15 Why Meredyth says Healing Becky is one of the top 10 books of her life

03:45 The vision that launched the book and the napkin that started it all

06:30 What it really felt like to relive trauma while writing

10:10 Why Rebecca had to take months-long breaks to process the hardest parts

13:40 Mother wounds, generational healing, and breaking the silence

17:25 What made her go back to her mom and ask the hard questions

20:50 Forgiveness, religious deconstruction, and the danger of shame-based healing

25:10 Raising kids while healing yourself and giving them room to speak their pain

30:00 Why some people sign up to be the villain in our story

34:15 How spiritual insight helped Rebecca find purpose in her trauma

38:00 What it takes to truly stop the cycle for yourself and your children

42:20 The profound power of being heard, seen, and believed

45:00 Why honesty, not perfection, heals parent-child relationships

50:30 Her plans for a second book and the message behind it

54:00 Rebecca’s advice for anyone ready to start their own healing journey

58:20 Final thoughts. You are not broken. You are becoming.

🔗 Connect with Rebecca J. Rowan

💻 Website: rebeccahealingmedium.com

📘 Healing Becky – Buy it on Amazon

📱 TikTok & Instagram: @RebeccaHealingMedium

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