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In this episode, we’re getting honest about people pleasing: what it really is, where it comes from, and how to break the habit without losing your heart.

What I once labeled as “love” was actually overextension. I thought constantly accommodating others meant I was caring well. In reality, it was entanglement rooted in fear, control, and unhealed places.

If you struggle with:
• Saying no
• Over-giving
• Feeling resentful after doing “the right thing”
• Managing everyone else’s emotions
• Exhaustion from trying to keep the peace

This conversation is for you.

We unpack how people pleasing can be a trauma response, why controlling outcomes keeps you drained, and how to remain generous without abandoning yourself in the process.

You do not have to drain yourself to prove your love.

In This Episode, We Explore:

• How people pleasing can be rooted in past pain not pure love
• The difference between protection and control
• Why you are not responsible for managing everyone’s outcomes
• How to give freely without running at a deficit
• The power of loving from a distance when necessary

Explorer’s Takeaway:
“You can be a giving person without giving yourself away.”

This Week’s Mental Mom3nt:

Make three small shifts:

1. Pour the same intentional time into yourself that you pour into others.

2. Ask the people closest to you if the way you show up is actually helpful or just habitual.

3. Notice where your giving leaves you empty and explore new ways to love that don’t cost your peace.

Why This Episode Matters

People pleasing is often praised as kindness. But unchecked, it leads to burnout, resentment, anxiety, and identity loss. This episode bridges mental health and self-awareness to help you build healthier relationships rooted in choice not fear.

You deserve relationships where love flows both ways.

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In this episode of Mental Mom3nts, I’m inviting you into an honest conversation about self love, healing, and the daily practices that shape how we care for ourselves. From breaking free of people pleasing to redefining what love actually looks like in action, this episode explores how loving yourself is a continual process and not a one time decision.

We talk about how love is learned, practiced, and sustained through knowledge, routine, and non negotiable boundaries. If you’ve ever struggled to prioritize yourself, felt disconnected from your needs, or wondered what loving yourself really looks like in real life, this episode is for you.

Self love is not selfish. It is foundational.

✨ Why love is an act of knowledge and not just a feeling
✨ How misunderstanding love can lead to people pleasing
✨ What loving yourself looks like in everyday routines
✨ How boundaries, affirmations, and honesty deepen self trust
✨ Why making self love non negotiable supports healing and faith

Love makes the world go round, but your world has to begin with you.

Take inventory of what actually makes you feel loved.
Ask yourself what routines support your peace, where you need clearer boundaries, and what love looks like for you in this season.

Commit to one loving action you can repeat daily.

Self love is often discussed in theory but rarely broken down into practical and sustainable habits. This episode bridges mental health, healing, and faith by showing how loving yourself is not about perfection but about presence, honesty, and consistency.

When you learn how to love yourself well, you unlock deeper peace, healthier relationships, and the freedom to live aligned.

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What does loving yourself look like right now
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In this episode of Mental Mom3nts, I’m opening up a real, reflective conversation about trust — specifically how to trust when you don’t know what the next step is, when it’s coming, or how everything is going to work out.This conversation is about learning how to move forward when clarity hasn’t arrived yet. From entering a new year with strong but intentionally slow steps, to navigating anger, fatigue, tenderness, and new relationships, we’re unpacking what it means to trust God, trust yourself, and cautiously learn how to trust others again after life has taken you through it.I reflect on the audacious prayer that shaped my transition into this season, the emotional weight I carried through 2024, and how healing isn’t linear. If you’ve ever felt frustrated with yourself for moving slowly, overwhelmed by “what ifs,” or torn between wanting to protect your heart and wanting to move forward in faith, this episode is for you.Trust doesn’t require certainty. It requires willingness.In This Episode, We Explore:✨ What it looks like to trust when the next step isn’t clear✨ Moving with strong but slow steps in a new season✨ Holding joy, anger, and grief at the same time✨ Navigating new relationships while still tender✨ The difference between preparing in fear vs. testing things in faith✨ Why communication is essential when trust is still forming✨ How accountability begins within and extends outward✨ Letting go of control and embracing the blessing of not knowing everythingExplorer’s Takeaway 🧭Trust is not a destination — it’s a walk, a run, a fall, and an adjustment.You don’t need to have every answer to move forward. You just need to believe that what carried you this far can carry you further.This Week’s Mental Mom3nt:Pay attention to your pace.Where are you moving slowly out of wisdom, not fear?What tender places need clearer communication instead of silence?Trust doesn’t mean rushing.It means choosing to walk anyway.Why This Episode MattersWe talk a lot about trust, but rarely about how fragile it can feel after disappointment, loss, or exhaustion. This episode connects faith, emotional awareness, and self-accountability to show that trust isn’t built by control or certainty — it’s built by honesty, communication, and the courage to try again.If you’re healing, rebuilding, or learning how to move forward without all the details, this episode offers reassurance that your pace is valid and your faith is enough.Join the Community📲 Follow Mental Mom3nts on Instagram: @mentalmom3nts✨ Connect with your host: @healinghotti3💌 Questions or topic ideas? Email: healinghotti3@gmail.comShare this episode with someone who’s learning how to trust again, take their time, or walk by faith instead of fear.Let’s Keep the Conversation GoingWhat does trust look like for you in this season?Are you moving slowly, cautiously, or boldly — and why?Leave a comment, send a DM, or tag us in your favorite takeaway from this episode. You’re not walking this journey alone.Listen, Watch & Subscribe 🎧Stay connected. New Mental Mom3nts every week.Subscribe on:✔ Apple Podcasts✔ Spotify✔ YouTube✔ Your favorite podcast platform