Today’s episode is for men, dads, and non default parents who want to feel more connected to their spouse but feel stuck, discouraged, or like nothing they do is ever enough. My goal with this conversation is not to criticize or shame, but to help you actually win in your marriage without burning yourself out or overhauling your entire life.

I’m walking you through one of the biggest areas couples struggle with after kids: the mental load. I explain what it really is, why focusing only on tasks keeps couples disconnected, and how shifting from a helper role to a shared management mindset can completely change the dynamic in your marriage. This is part one of a two part conversation designed to help you feel more confident, more effective, and more appreciated in your relationship.

Tune in to discover:

• What the mental load actually is and why it matters in marriage

• The three parts of the mental load and which one is most draining

• Why doing more tasks does not always lead to less conflict

• The difference between being a helper and being a partner

• Small shifts that help you feel more connected and supported at home

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Parenting doesn’t just test your patience with your kids. It can quietly strain your marriage in ways most couples do not expect. Differences in parenting styles, emotional triggers, and how each partner handles stress can quickly turn everyday moments into conflict, resentment, and disconnection.

In this episode, I’m joined by psychologist and parenting expert Dr. Hilary Mandzik, to explore how parenting stress shows up inside marriage. We talk about why parenting is one of the most emotionally charged areas for couples, how unaddressed triggers spill into your relationship, and what actually helps couples feel like a team again.

Tune in to discover:

• Why parenting is one of the biggest sources of conflict for couples

• How differences in parenting styles create distance and resentment

• The role emotional triggers play in both parenting and marriage

• Why repair matters more than getting it right in the moment

• How shared frameworks reduce stress and strengthen your partnership

Connect with Dr. Hilary:

• Podcast: raisedresilient.com/podcast

• 5 Shifts to End the Meltdowns Masterclass: raisedresilient.com/registration

• Free 45 minute call: raisedresilient.com/breakthrough

Connect with Dr. Lindsay:

• Sign up for The 3 Secrets to a Happier Marriage (Free LIVE training Jan 22nd): https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Links&utm_campaign=3%20Secrets%20-%20Jan26

• The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

• Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

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So many couples tell me they are talking all the time, yet nothing is actually changing.

In this episode, I’m breaking down why communication issues are rarely about the words themselves. I explain what is really happening underneath the surface when conversations break down, why advice like “just talk it out” often backfires, and what needs to be addressed before communication can actually improve.

This is a foundational episode. If you feel stuck in recurring arguments, shut down during conflict, or unsure how to even begin fixing communication, this is where to start.

Tune in to discover:

• Why communication problems are usually a symptom, not the root issue

• The emotional barriers that derail conversations before they begin

• How resentment and burnout quietly sabotage connection

• What emotional safety has to do with being able to talk things through

• The most important place to start if you want real change in your marriage

Sign up for The 3 Secrets to a Happier Marriage (Free LIVE training Jan 22nd): https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Links&utm_campaign=3%20Secrets%20-%20Jan26

The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

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