God created us with desires—good and life-giving longings meant to draw us closer to Him and to one another. But when those desires are mishandled in marriage, they can quietly turn into demands that lead to disappointment and disconnection.

In this episode, Matt and Renee explore how our desires can become a place where God does His refining work. They share how to bring those longings to Him first, communicate them with humility, invite His perspective when disappointment surfaces, and allow God’s grace to transform both our hearts and our marriage.

This is a conversation about surrendering control, rediscovering gratitude, and letting God reshape our hearts so that our desires lead to connection, not division—drawing us closer to Him and to each other.

Discussion Questions:

1. When you hear the words desires and demands, what comes to mind in the context of your marriage?
2. What are some desires you brought into marriage that have changed or deepened over time?
3. What do you notice about yourself when a desire starts to become a demand?
4. In your relationship, which expectations tend to cause the most friction or misunderstanding?
5. What helps you reorient your heart toward gratitude and grace instead of resentment or entitlement?
6. Where might God be inviting you to release control and trust Him with a longing that hasn’t been fulfilled yet?