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Love Better & Life Better

Love Better & Life Better

By: Shazmeen Bank
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Love Better is a safe and loving space where we talk about the real, raw parts of relationships. I’m Shazmeen, and in this podcast, I’ll be sharing my own story and the lessons I’ve learned about attachment styles, relationship healing, and self love. We’ll talk about how attachment styles shape the way we connect, the struggles of addiction your fearful or dismissive avoidant partner may have to pornography or other levels they numb feeling away, what happens when intimacy fades in sexless relationships, and how losing touch with our inner child can impact how we love. You will walk away with lessons and tools to improve your current relationships, walk away from ones that no longer serve you and learn how to build new relationships from a place of secure foundations. We will break down anxious attachment, secure attachment, fearful avoidant attachment and dismissive attachment and the deep role our attachment styles play in the way we intimately relate to others and ourselves. The key will be to grow to be more securely attached. But most importantly, I’ll be here offering support, kindness, and compassion as we explore how to heal these wounds. My hope is that through these conversations, you’ll feel seen, heard, and empowered to rebuild the love and connection you deserve—starting with yourself. I wanted to create a podcast that felt like you are talking and listening to a friend. One that cares deeply for your ability to love better. We will dive deep into how our attachment styles hold a foundation for a lot of the decisions we make. You will gain an insight into your "why's" and learn from a place of no judgement. You will learn how to communicate better, resolve challenges and handle conflict from a new perspective. I hope you enjoy listening to this podcast whilst on a walk, jog, in the tub or taking yourself on a date. Lets get vulnerable together and as we heal remember we can love better. NO more blaming, critiquing and shaming yourself and your partner.


Life better is a segment that drops every Thursday and will teach you self mastery, mastering emotions and how to take responsibility of your life. I will give you tools you can use weekly to grow into the version of "self" you are born to be.

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Episodes
  • “Why This Heartbreak Feels Different: You Broke Long Before It Ended”

    “Why This Heartbreak Feels Different: You Broke Long Before It Ended”
    Dec 12 2025

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    I could not find the advice i needed about having gone through heart break before I left. Before you left or they left! Not the normal heart break advice, after they leave you suddenly or you leave suddenly.

    Most people think heartbreak hits the moment the relationship ends.

    But the truth is, some heartbreak begins long before the goodbye ever happens in the quiet places where you were breaking inside while still trying to hold everything together.

    This episode is for the ones who didn’t fall apart the day it ended… because they had already broken a hundred times before that.

    It’s for the people who:
    • cried in the relationship long before they cried after it
    • felt themselves slowly disappearing while trying to “make it work”
    • grieved a partner who was still physically there
    • lived in a state of quiet hope followed by quiet heartbreak
    • lost dreams, time, and versions of themselves trying to keep love alive
    • feel numb now, not because they didn’t care, but because they carried the pain for years

    We dive into the heartbreak no one talks about
    the heartbreak of internal collapse, of losing yourself, of grieving a future you never got to live, and the slow emotional erosion that happens when love becomes a place of pain instead of safety.

    • In this episode, you’ll learn:
    • why this heartbreak feels so different
    • why your nervous system is exhausted, not dramatic
    • why numbness is a trauma response, not a lack of love
    • why letting go feels like losing a life you already left internally
    • how heartbreak becomes an awakening, not a failure
    • how to rebuild the parts of yourself you abandoned to stay

    If you’ve ever thought, “Why am I not grieving like everyone else?” or “Why does this heartbreak feel so deep even though I was the one who left?”

    This conversation will finally put words to what your heart already knows.

    🎧 Love Better Podcast (Spotify)

    https://open.spotify.com/show/4TJF1rMoWmLBdQZveeSCnf

    🎧 Love Better Podcast (Apple Podcasts)

    https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-better/id1740561464

    🎧 Love Better Podcast (Buzzsprout)

    https://www.buzzsprout.com/2335305

    ▶️ Love Better on YouTube (Your Channel)

    https://www.youtube.com/@shazmeenbank

    📸 Instagram — @shazmeenbank

    https://instagram.com/shazmeenbank

    🎵 TikTok — @shazmeen_bank

    https://www.tiktok.com/@shazmeen_bank

    ▶️ YouTube — Shazmeen Bank

    https://www.youtube.com/@shazmeenbank

    THE PERSPECTIVE PODCAST:

    ▶️ YouTube

    https://www.youtube.com/@theperspectivepodcastgs

    🎧 Spotify

    https://open.spotify.com/show/2Gre5RJxyF7fWcE3sQ8ZIT

    📸 Instagram

    https://instagram.com/theperspectivepodcast.gs


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    55 mins
  • Why Leaving a Trauma-Bonded Relationship Hurts So Deeply

    Why Leaving a Trauma-Bonded Relationship Hurts So Deeply
    Dec 2 2025

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    If you’ve ever stayed in a relationship that was breaking you - or left one and wondered why the pain feels heavier than the love - this episode will speak to you. Trauma bonds make you confuse intensity for love, chaos for connection, and survival for loyalty. You know they hurt you… but you also know they’re the same person who “rescued” you from the hurt they caused. That cycle is powerful, addictive, and deeply confusing - especially when your nervous system has been trained to expect the highs and lows.In this episode, we explore the truth behind:

    • Why you stay in unhealthy relationships even when you know you deserve better
    • How childhood wounds, anxious attachment, and people-pleasing shape your choices in love
    • The difference between real repair and trauma-bonded “makeups”
    • Why leaving can make you feel numb, exhausted, or strangely peaceful
    • The grief of realising you loved them more than they ever loved you back
    • What happens when you finally start choosing yourself after years of self-abandonmentI also share a moment from my own life - running a 21km race during the hardest part of my separation - and how that run became the metaphor for rebuilding my self-worth, step by step, breath by breath. Not because my story is the point… but because sometimes someone else’s moment reminds you of your own strength.If you’re walking through a breakup, separation, divorce, or healing from an emotionally turbulent relationship, I want you to know:

    You are not crazy. You are not weak. And you are not alone.

    Healing after leaving a trauma bond requires compassion, self-respect, nervous system safety, and the courage to meet the version of you that only emerges when you finally choose yourself. You deserve a relationship that feels calm, safe, and consistent — not one that makes you question your worth.

    Connect with me:
    Instagram: @shazmeenbank
    TikTok: @shazmeen_bank
    Love Better Podcast on YouTube
    The Perspective Podcast (with my son): ThePerspectivePodcastGS on YouTube & Spotify


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    1 hr and 2 mins
  • "How Avoidant Partners Can Love Someone with Anxious Attachment"

    "How Avoidant Partners Can Love Someone with Anxious Attachment"
    Jul 28 2025

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    I know what it feels like to have your partner want to take an interest in your world. How lonley and sad it can feel when you love and feel so empty inside. Anxious partners are givers and you also really need an avoidant partner to step up and do their part. xx Love Shazmeen.

    In this episode, Shazmeen Bank explores the dynamics of anxious and avoidant attachment styles in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of understanding the needs of an anxiously attached partner and how avoidant partners can better support them. The conversation covers topics such as emotional safety, communication, reassurance, physical affection, and the significance of fostering independence and growth within the relationship. Shazmeen highlights the necessity of co-regulation and the role of both partners in creating a secure and fulfilling relationship.

    Take Aways From This Episode:

    • Anxiously attached partners often feel neglected and unseen.
    • Avoidant partners can learn to better support their anxious partners.
    • Setting boundaries is crucial for anxious individuals.
    • Emotional safety is essential for a healthy relationship.
    • Consistent communication helps alleviate anxiety in relationships.
    • Physical affection is vital for anxiously attached partners.
    • Reassurance is a key need for those with anxious attachment.
    • Independence and personal growth should be encouraged in relationships.
    • Understanding abandonment fears can improve relationship dynamics.
    • Co-regulation is necessary for a secure and loving partnership.

    Thank you for spending this time with me. If this episode touched something in you, I hope you know that you’re not alone. Healing isn’t linear, and love real love starts with how you show up for yourself.

    If something I said resonated, moved you, or made you feel seen, it would mean so much if you took a moment to leave a review or share this episode with someone who needs it. That’s how this message reaches hearts who are quietly hurting and still holding on to hope.

    You can connect with me more deeply over on Instagram @shazmeenbank or TikTok @shazmeen_bank, or explore 1:1 or couples coaching with me at www.shazmeenbank.com.

    And if you ever want to share your story or ask me a question, my inbox is always open at Shazmeen@shazmeenbank.com.

    You are worthy of safe love. You are worthy of peace.

    And you’re already on your way there.

    With love,
    Shazmeen




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