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Let's Talk People-Pleasing! with Charlotte Bailey

Let's Talk People-Pleasing! with Charlotte Bailey

By: Charlotte Bailey
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Do you often wonder why you find it so hard to say 'no' to people?

  • Maybe you struggle to make time for yourself because you can't switch off — you feel like you should always be doing something.
  • Perhaps you've always felt too sensitive, too dramatic, too needy, too different... 'too much' — and yet never quite enough.
  • Maybe you've been self-sacrificing, suppressing, and masking for so long that it doesn't even feel like a mask anymore — you can’t remember who you really are beneath it.
  • Or you're a therapist or a woman with her own business, someone who cares deeply about what you do — but ‘good girl’ conditioning and spiralling overthinking hold you back from marketing yourself, because being seen doesn’t feel safe.


I'm Charlotte, an experienced psychotherapist, speaker and coach and mentor for women business owners who care deeply about what they do but struggle with overthinking and showing up without the cringe.


I'm so passionate about what I do because for decades, I lived as an anxious people-pleaser—constantly trying to keep others happy so I’d be accepted, always feeling like I was 'too much.'


Until one day, I realised I’d lost myself completely. Something had to change.

When it did, it brought a level of freedom I’d never felt before.

Getting to the root cause helped me let go of the need to please—and finally connect with the real me I’d been suppressing for so long.

With that came a new sense of self-trust, self-belief, and authentic confidence.

And I want you to know: you can find that too.


In the podcast I explore all things people-pleasing, trauma and good-girl conditioning; why you people-please, what the signs are, and the impact it can have on all aspects of your life.


I'll share personal and professional insights and you'll discover tips and strategies to help you stop people-pleasing and break free from what's holding you back, so you can move forward as your authentic self with confidence - in life and in business.

© 2025 Let's Talk People-Pleasing! with Charlotte Bailey Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Social Sciences
Episodes
  • Why Shame Fuels People-Pleasing - and How to Break the Cycle | Ep 48

    Why Shame Fuels People-Pleasing - and How to Break the Cycle | Ep 48
    Sep 9 2025

    Do you often put everyone else’s needs before your own - and feel bad if you don’t?

    In this episode, I’m joined by Kay from Place to Talk Therapy Practice to explore the deep connection between shame and people-pleasing. We talk about how shame begins, how it shows up in everyday life, and why it can feel so hard to break free from old patterns.

    Kay shares her personal experience of living with shame, from body image struggles to those early messages we pick up about who we need to be in order to be accepted and loved. Kay explains:

    • The difference between guilt and shame - and why shame runs so deep.
    • How childhood experiences and cultural expectations shape people-pleasing.
    • Gentle ways to notice and challenge shame-fuelled thoughts.
    • What self-honour is and why it is the antidote to shame.
    • First steps you can take to set boundaries and put your needs back on the table.

    You can find out more about Kay and her practice at https://www.placetotalktherapies.co.uk/

    Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

    Get your FREE Video Visibility Toolkit - discover how to go from cringe to confidence on video

    Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and being visible and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

    Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/
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    29 mins
  • The People-Pleasing Path That Leads You Away From Yourself | Ep 47

    The People-Pleasing Path That Leads You Away From Yourself | Ep 47
    Sep 2 2025

    I share what it’s really like to walk the well-worn path of people-pleasing - the one that promises peace, acceptance, and connection, but actually leaves you feeling lost and disconnected from yourself.

    I talk about the hidden costs of always saying yes, the silent panic when you even think about saying no, and why it can feel like you don’t even know what you want anymore.

    Most importantly, I explain why people-pleasing isn’t a fixed personality trait - it’s a nervous system survival response. You didn’t choose this path, but you can choose differently now. And even though stepping off it feels scary and uncertain, that anxiety isn’t a sign you’re doing something wrong - it’s a sign you’re heading off the path, to make a new one. One that will lead you back to yourself.

    Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

    Get your FREE Video Visibility Toolkit - discover how to go from cringe to confidence on video

    Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and being visible and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

    Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/
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    9 mins
  • From Overthinking People-Pleaser to Solo Festival Raver | Ep 47

    From Overthinking People-Pleaser to Solo Festival Raver | Ep 47
    Aug 26 2025

    Past me would NEVER have done this.
    This weekend I went to Creamfields on my own, volunteered with Blink Mental Health, gave therapy sessions in the middle of the thumping bass - and then did something that reminded me how liberating it is when you break free from people-pleasing.

    When I was in my anxious, overthinking people-pleasing prime, I’d never have walked into a festival alone. I’d never have volunteered alongside a team I’d never met, doing something as unfamiliar as therapy in a bell tent. And yet, what struck me most this weekend was what didn’t happen: I didn’t spiral for days about what to wear. What to say. Whether people would think I was “too much” for asking questions. The fear of getting lost, looking stupid, or not fitting in. And afterwards, I didn’t replay every conversation, cringing at every word.

    Instead of overthinking, I felt grounded. Present. Happy.
    And what I chose to do after my shift really hit me deep.

    If you’ve ever held back because of what others might think, or felt like you’re “too much and not enough” all at once - this episode is your reminder that freedom is possible. In your own way, at your own pace.

    Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

    Get your FREE Video Visibility Toolkit - discover how to go from cringe to confidence on video

    Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and being visible and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

    Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/
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    18 mins
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