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LTN 5 - Outdated Relationship Myths

LTN 5 - Outdated Relationship Myths

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• Introduction of "Love Thy Neighbor" with Colette Fehr
• Discussion of recording schedule and Twitch/YouTube streams
• Breakdown of seven relationship myths and modern realities
• Myth 1: Compromise often means mutual loss—prioritize listening and connection
• 69% of problems are unsolvable; focus on empathy, not victory
• Use 1–10 scale to gauge partner priorities and set boundaries
• Avoid people-pleasing; long-term avoidance kills authenticity
• Myth 2: Open communication doesn't mean oversharing—filter strong emotions
• Clarity before honesty prevents resentment and defensiveness
• Humor and tone matter when giving feedback
• Myth 3: Small stuff matters—minor hurts build into resentment
• Direct, quick talks prevent emotional weight from piling up
• Most therapy deals with small misunderstandings, not huge fights
• Learn forgiveness; most conflicts come from misread intentions
• Practice kind assertiveness—voice needs calmly and clearly
• Myth 4: Intimacy doesn't fade—it evolves through vulnerability
• Fear of rejection blocks sexual honesty; share fantasies openly
• Timing and tone make difficult talks easier
• Address libido issues with curiosity, therapy, and health focus
• Recognize differing sexual rhythms and emotional needs
• Maintaining novelty strengthens long-term desire
• Myth 5: Chores or money don't break couples—disconnection does
• Appreciation and communication outweigh perfection
• Myth 6: Speaking up isn't conflict—it's clarity
• Myth 7: "Never go to bed angry" is false—cool off before resolving
• Emotional regulation and rest improve repair conversations
• Promotion of Fehr's book *The Cost of Quiet* (colettejanefehr.com)
• Invite listeners to email questions and subscribe for new episodes

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