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LTN 14 - Purpose Anxiety

LTN 14 - Purpose Anxiety

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 • Introduction of Love Thy Neighbor with relationship therapist Colette Fair • Colette managing stress while preparing for The Cost of Quiet book launch • Announcement of The Cost of Quiet launch event at Maitland Mercedes-Benz • Event details: date, time, location, ticket includes a copy of the book • Framing the launch as both a book release and a community gathering • Loneliness discussed as a widespread modern issue • Feeling lonely even within families and long-term relationships • Humor about hiding in the bathroom for quiet time • Phones and constant distraction worsening disconnection • Live podcast recording planned at the launch event • Meet-and-greet with hosts and attendees • Food, drinks, and relaxed, low-pressure atmosphere emphasized • Event positioned as an easy entry point to relationship work • Participation from local therapists and community voices • Focus on improving connection and reducing loneliness • Communication breakdowns linked to phones and social media • Ticket info shared via website, show notes, and live chat • Giveaway of 10 free tickets with email entry instructions • Encouragement for longtime listeners and newcomers alike • Listener email praising the show and a long, happy marriage • Discussion of attraction and intimacy growing over time • Question of whether partners value being praised publicly • Importance of expressing appreciation beyond generic compliments • Hosts affirm appreciation as rare and essential for relationship health • Daily emotional check-ins encouraged over routine small talk • Using specific appreciation during check-ins • Small household efforts as meaningful signs of care • Feeling "seen" through acknowledgment of little things • Research showing many positives needed to outweigh negatives • Couples overfocusing on complaints under stress • Balancing grievances with gratitude and affirmation • Limits of love languages and pressure to self-label • Most people still enjoying praise even if they claim otherwise • Compliments about effort, attraction, and appearance matter • Men and women both valuing being told they look good • Compliments boosting confidence in partners and children • Kids learning affirmation through modeled behavior • Discussion of whether too much praise can feel smothering • Difference between healthy appreciation and unhealthy overdoing it • Encouragement to ask partners how they prefer to feel loved • Public praise versus private appreciation preferences • Teasing and joking as long-term bonding dynamics • Humor, hazing, and exaggeration as signs of emotional security • Reinforcing that genuine appreciation is usually welcomed • Introduction of purpose anxiety and pressure to "find your purpose" • Reframing purpose as small, evolving, and practical • Careers often developing without a clear master plan • Feeling trapped in unfulfilling work contributing to loneliness • Advice to seek small joys instead of drastic life changes • Accepting that even meaningful work still includes stress • Finding meaning outside of work when necessary • Hobbies and side interests potentially growing into fulfillment • Parenting parallels about finding positives in disliked activities • Ballet discipline example showing delayed appreciation • Love languages explained as tools, not science • Overview of quality time, acts of service, touch, words, and gifts • Emphasis on asking directly what makes a partner feel loved • Alone time recognized as a valid emotional need • Mental load carried by women in families highlighted • Importance of noticing invisible planning and emotional labor • Encouraging proactive support rather than assumptions • Transition to dating after divorce in your 40s • Anxiety about modern dating norms and apps • Dating apps described as discouraging and dehumanizing • Encouragement toward low-pressure, in-person dates • Digital chemistry often failing to translate in real life • Normalizing awkwardness when reentering dating • Rebuilding social confidence through friendships • Reassurance that kind, stable partners are in demand • Emphasis on human need for real connection over technology • Invitation to the book launch as a social, organic meet opportunity • Reminder of free ticket giveaway and confirmation process • Lighthearted humor, optimism, and closing thanks ### Social Media [https://tomanddan.com](https://tomanddan.com) [https://twitter.com/tomanddanlive](https://twitter.com/tomanddanlive) [https://facebook.com/amediocretime](https://facebook.com/amediocretime) [https://instagram.com/tomanddanlive](https://instagram.com/tomanddanlive) Where to Find the Show – A Mediocre Time Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-mediocre-time/id334142682](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-mediocre-time/id334142682) Google Podcasts [https://podcasts.google.com...
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