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In this episode, I’m joined by Nick Duffell, psychotherapist, psycho-historian and author, known for his pioneering work with people who attended boarding schools.

We explore:
• Nick’s background and the 1994 film 'The Making of Them'
• His latest book 'The Unmaking of Them: Clinical Reflections on Boarding School Syndrome'
• What “Boarding School Syndrome” means and how it shows up in adult life
• How boarding schools have been normalised in British society
• The impacts on intimacy, emotions and relationships
• The different typologies of survivors and how therapy can help
• Strengths that can also come from the experience
• The psychology of parents who send children away, and the wider culture that sustains the system

Nick also shares hopeful strategies for recovery, showing how healing is possible for those affected.

📚 **Find out more about Nick Duffell’s work**
Website: (https://www.boardingschoolsurvivors.co.uk)
Books:
– 'The Making of Them'
– 'Wounded Leaders'
– 'The Unmaking of Them: Clinical Reflections on Boarding School Syndrome'

www.woundedleaders.co.uk
www.genderpsychology.com

'The Making of Them' movie is available on http://youtu.be/2uRr77vju8U


✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.

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In this episode, I talk about the vital role that community plays in supporting mental health for bi+ individuals, asking questions about whether you have experienced the pressure of conforming to political ideologies within communities and inviting you to share your experiences and thoughts on the topic.

**Bi+ Therapy & Support**

If you're looking for a therapist who understands the unique experiences of being bisexual or bi+ — including identity, belonging, invisibility, relationships, coming out, and navigating assumptions — you're very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk). I offer therapy and support that’s grounded, non-judgemental and informed by lived experience.

**🎁 My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change'** is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.

Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.

‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:

"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others."

"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."

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In this episode, I explore the pressure that therapy trainees, and therapists more generally, can sometimes feel to go along with dominant views within training groups, supervision, or wider therapy spaces.

What happens when we don’t feel safe to express a different opinion?
What are the effects on our growth, learning and sense of self when we hold back?
And how do we create environments where difference is truly welcome?

I’d really love to hear your thoughts on this one, especially if you’ve experienced something similar in your own training.

🎯 **1:1 Mentoring & Consultancy**
Thinking about changing career to become a therapist? Already qualified and wanting to start up a private therapy practice? In private practice and looking to grow? Or maybe you're curious about sharing your voice on YouTube? I offer supportive, one-to-one mentoring on career change and becoming a therapist, starting and building a private practice, and creating meaningful content on YouTube. All the details are on my website:
(https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk)

✅ If you're thinking about exploring therapy generally, I’d love to hear from you and you’re very welcome to get in touch with me via my website (https://www.thistrustedplace.co.uk) to find out more or to arrange an initial conversation.

🎁 **My FREE personal development course 'Life Unlimited: 10 Steps to Real Change' is now available on this channel in a playlist on the homepage.**

Whether you’re looking to move through anxiety, stress, depression, chronic anger, addictive behaviour, co-dependency, narcissism, low self-esteem/confidence, relationship problems, feeling stuck, lost or lacking in purpose – or simply want to experience more happiness, contentment and fulfilment in your life – this course is carefully designed to help you do just that.

**‘Life Unlimited’ Course testimonials include:**

"John-Paul's course Life Unlimited more than lives up to its promise as a practical and accessible guide to making meaningful, positive changes in your life. He takes you on a clear path towards self-awareness and self-acceptance, helping you to set healthy boundaries in your relationships with others."
"The course is packed with valuable content, yet John-Paul's warm, non-judgemental style makes it feel more as if a friend is sharing some wonderful wisdom. 100% recommend."
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If there’s anything else you’d like to know about John-Paul and how he might be able to help you, please do contact him via his website www.thistrustedplace.co.uk