If you’ve ever cringed at the word “networking,” avoided events like the plague, or told yourself you’re “just not that kind of person”… this episode is for you.

In this episode of I Mean This In The Nicest Way Possible, RAM takes on the uncomfortable truth at the heart of most success stories: at some point, you have to put yourself out there. Not in a sleazy, performative way — but in a strategic, self-honoring, “I actually believe in what I bring to the table” way.

This week, RAM breaks down why hiding in your cozy little bubble is not protecting you — it’s quietly shrinking your life. Through psychology, real-world examples, and his own stories, he reframes “whoring yourself out” as what it really is: being visible, building community, and letting people see what you’re capable of.

You’ll hear about:

• The mere-exposure effect — why showing up regularly makes people trust and remember you
• Social capital and how relationships quietly multiply your opportunities
• Why action builds confidence (not the other way around)
• The brutal reality that talent doesn’t matter if no one can see you
• How isolation chips away at your identity, resilience, and sense of possibility

Then RAM dives into the stories that bring it all to life:
• Kesha driving to Prince’s house and shamelessly dropping off her demo like a legend in training
• Issa Rae’s philosophy of “network across, not up” — building sideways with peers instead of waiting for gatekeepers
• The Arizona work trip that turned a casual lunch invite into one of his closest, most life-shaping friendships

From there, he gets honest about what happens when you don’t put yourself out there — the missed opportunities, the “invisible jobs” you never hear about, and the way your world slowly stops expanding when you decide you’re “better off alone.”

And because this show is about action, not just awareness, RAM shares what’s working for him right now:
• Intentional networking — reaching out to people he admires even when it feels awkward
• Leading with value instead of desperation or performance
• Moving his brand forward visibly instead of quietly hoping to be discovered
• Following intuitive nudges that say “reach out now” instead of letting fear drive the car

Finally, he introduces The Shameless Ask Rule™ — a simple, weekly practice where you make one bold ask: a DM, an email, a follow-up, an introduction, a pitch. Nothing wild, nothing forced — just one real move that nudges you closer to the life you actually want.

This episode isn’t about selling your soul.
It’s about showing your worth.
It’s about remembering that your next breakthrough is almost always tied to a person — and that staying invisible doesn’t make you humble, it just makes you overlooked.

If you’ve got 25 minutes, RAM means this in the nicest way possible: it’s okay to whore yourself out — strategically, shamelessly, and in full alignment with who you really are.