The Great Capacity Paradox

Do we actually have the capacity to do all the things we want to do?

If you’ve been feeling chronically tired, stretched thin, or like you’re constantly “failing,” you aren’t alone.

In the third episode of Capacity Conversations, hosts Raquel Sands and Sarah Liljegren dive into the “polluted waters” of modern life to deconstruct the concept of deficiency and why our current systems are designed to make us feel perpetually “less than”.

Key Takeaways from the Episode

1. Deficiency is a “Falling Away,” Not a Personal Failure

Raquel explores the etymology of “deficiency,” which stems from the Latin deficere, meaning a failing or a “falling away from doing”.

* The Reframing: A deficiency isn’t an innate lack within you. It is often a natural part of balance—choosing not to do one thing so you can focus on another.

* The Systemic Root: Often, the lack is in our environment or structures, not our character. We have inherited systems of capitalism and extraction that are designed to keep us in a state of “continuous hunger”.

2. The Trap of “Hustle Culture” and Identity

In the U.S., identity is often wrapped up in professional titles. Sarah and Raquel discuss how we are conditioned to believe we should “do it all,” which Sarah identifies as a logical fallacy.

* The Natural Law: You cannot give more than you have.

* The Reckoning: Many millennials reach their 30s and realize they’ve been following a “funnel” of societal expectations without ever truly knowing themselves.

3. Reclaiming Self-Mastery and Boundaries

To possess yourself is to reclaim agency over your time and energy.

* The Power of Practice: Modern culture lacks a “practice of practice”—the dedication to honing a skill or routine (like meditation or writing) over a long period.

* The Truce: Raquel highlights that the word “trust” is rooted in the same origin as “tree” and “truce”. Finding capacity requires making a truce with yourself—accepting what you can actually do right now without shame.

4. Finding Nourishment in Nature

Sarah, a naturalist and real estate professional, emphasizes the need to bridge the gap between our modern lives and natural cycles.

* Mother Nature’s Mirror: Just as we feel burnt out, the earth is attempting to find its own reciprocity and balance.

* True Self-Care: Sometimes self-care is a bubble bath; other times, it is the discomfort of a hard conversation or setting a firm boundary at work.

The “Capacity” Action List

* Audit Your “Inheritance”: Recognize which pressures are yours and which were inherited from previous generations or systemic structures.

* Practice Personal Inquiry: Ask yourself daily: “What do I need in this moment?” Be honest and “naked” with your answer.

* Embrace the “Freefall”: Like a baby bird leaving the nest, you don’t always need to know how to fly before you take the leap. Trust that your curiosity and self-discovery have prepared you for the edge.

🎧 Listen to the Full Series: Check out our Spotify Playlist for music that is uplifting, nurturing, and nourishing to accompany your journey through these challenging dialogues.

✨ Connect with Us:

* Raquel Sands: Clarity strategist and digital assets designer helping millennials sustain peace and prosperity.

* Sarah Liljegren: Real estate expert and naturalist working at the intersection of modern industry and natural cycles.