Welcome back to It’s Hard Out Here, where the mildly unhinged come together to explore the strange and fascinating corners of modern life. In today’s episode, we’re diving headfirst into the enigmatic world of femcels with our new co-host, the mysterious and delightfully off-kilter Lee.

Join us as we unravel the complexities of the femcel subculture, from its origins to its present-day manifestations. We’ll explore:

• What It Means to Be a Femcel: Discover the evolution from first-wave femcels—women who see themselves as involuntarily celibate—to second-wave femcels, who embrace voluntary celibacy as a rejection of traditional gender roles.
• Themes and Signifiers: We dig into recurring themes such as female rage, misandry, and hetero-pessimism, and how they play out in femcel media and online communities.
• Cultural Impact: From the darkly compelling characters in Gone Girl and Perfect Blue to the introspective narratives of My Year of Rest and Relaxation and The Virgin Suicides, we’ll discuss how femcel themes resonate in popular media.
• The Femcel Community: Is it a productive movement or a space of self-perpetuating victimhood? We debate the implications of the femcel mindset, its overlap with other movements, and its impact on mental health and societal change.
• Genuinely Funny & Interesting Tidbits: We sprinkle in some humor with femcel memes, trivia, and questions like whether Hayley is a femcel and the infamous “gatekeep, gaslight, girlboss” phenomenon.

Tune in for an intriguing discussion that sheds light on the shadowy corners of online subcultures and the narratives that shape our perceptions. Whether you’re a curious observer or a seasoned participant, this episode promises to be a thought-provoking ride.

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In this episode, Hayley and Kerri unpack how being neurodivergent may relate to an individual's interpersonal relationships. Does mental illness stop people from making friends or do people with diagnoses just not want relationships as much as neurotypical individuals? Is it fair to force neurodivergent individuals to participate in the same social norms as neurotypical people and judge them by the same standards? Is it even a disadvantage to be neurodivergent? Hayley and Kez break it down.

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'Hard Out Here' by Lily Allen has been adapted under copyright legislation: Fair dealing of the copyright act Cth s 28, ss 40 (103C), s 45, ss 47, ss 111.

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In this episode, Hayley and Kerri chat with special guest, Chiara Sanday about what body image means to them. They unpack some of the things they have been influenced by, and some of the things their body image has influenced them to do.

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In this episode, Hayley and Kerri have their VERY first guest, Miss Alana. The three of them discuss conspiracy theories, touching on the Tik Tok viral 'Lady on an Airplane' who saw a man who apparently, "was not real", the glitter shortage, The Illuminati, religion, and the Flat Earth Theory.

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In this episode, Hayley and Kerri delve into the subreddit 'Am I the Asshole'. Is it okay to mock your friend's husband's weight? Is it okay to tell someone no one cares about their child? Should dads get an hour off from parenting their kids on Father's Day? Is it okay to keep things from your significant other? Is it rude to serve your girlfriend a smaller portion of food? Are you entitled to your dad's ashes? Listen to this episode to find out Hayley and Kerri's thoughts

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In this episode, Hayley and Kerri discuss how gender interacts with mental health stigma. Some of the factors they consider include toxic masculinity, female hysteria, and overdiagnosis in men and women. Some of the suggestions to combat stigma include accessible healthcare, education, and open communication.

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In this episode, Hayley and Kerri take a fat trauma dump on you all. And you guys return the favor by joining us. TRIGGER WARNING: this episode gets into trauma involving drugs, sexual assault, violence, bullying, and other confronting themes.

'Hard Out Here' by Lily Allen has been adapted under copyright legislation: Fair dealing of the copyright act Cth s 28, ss 40 (103C), s 45, ss 47, ss 111.

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In this episode, Hayley and Kerri dive into the topic of 'pronouns'. Are they dumb? Are people pushing for inclusivity 'snowflakes'? Do people seriously identify as frogs? Watch to find out.

'Hard Out Here' by Lily Allen has been adapted under copyright legislation: Fair dealing of the copyright act Cth s 28, ss 40 (103C), s 45, ss 47, ss 111.

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