Last week I told you the five things I do care about as a parent so today we’re flipping the script. I’m sharing the five things I absolutely do not give a shit about. Some of these I used to be type-A obsessed with, and others I’ve never cared about for even one second. Motherhood has humbled me, softened me, and honestly just rearranged my priorities in a way that feels a hell of a lot healthier.

First up: the mess. I don’t care how dirty my kid gets or how many messes he creates. We live on land. He’s outside constantly. Dirt is basically part of his DNA. I’ll still hold him accountable for cleaning up but messes usually mean we’re having fun. I’m not ruining that.

Second: where he sleeps. This one always fires people up. I couldn’t tell you what a wake window is, and I have never once stayed awake stressing about sleep schedules. If we’re rested and happy, that’s the only metric I care about. If he’s still coming into our bed in the night, perfect. I LOVE THAT SH*T!

Third: screen time. I used to be that mom - wood toys only, zero screens, crafts on crafts on crafts. And then I remembered that my husband and I run multiple six-figure businesses. The more I stress about screen time, the more he wants it. So yes, he gets some. Yes, we have boundaries. And yes, I’m totally fine with it.

Fourth: what other people think about my parenting. This took time to untangle, but we’re here now. I don’t care if my child doesn’t want to hug someone goodbye. I care about his autonomy. I’ll take advice when I ask for it, but I’m done bending my parenting to make other adults comfortable.

And fifth—the one I’m most fired up about: how he expresses himself. I do not care. At all. If my kid wants a nightgown, he’s getting the damn nightgown. Tune in to hear why I think nightgowns are ridiculously functional and how I shut my own shit down when my brain tried to make it “a thing.” We’re not teaching him how to be “a boy.” We’re teaching him how to be himself.

When we stop shoving our kids into boxes they were never meant to fit in, we actually enjoy parenting more. The real goal? Enjoy their childhood while we’re still in it. I hope this episode gives you the permission you need to release the stuff that truly doesn’t matter. Your child doesn’t need perfection. They need you - present, tuned in, and showing up.

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I wasn’t planning on recording today, but it’s snowing, my house is quiet, and after changing a poopy pull-up at midnight, I had a very clear thought: the things I thought would matter as a parent do not matter. At all. The things I actually care about now are way simpler… and way deeper.

First up: breakfast. I don’t force my kid to eat but when he skips breakfast I notice a huge difference in his day. Emotional regulation starts with blood sugar. If he’s hangry, we’re all going down with the ship.

Second: responsibility over obedience. I say this phrase regularly and with love: “Mommy isn’t your maid.” It’s not harsh, it’s the truth.

Third: emotional regulation. This one requires me to regulate my own emotions, which is honestly the hardest part of parenting. We name feelings, we take space, we repair when we inevitably lose our shit. And yes, our kid will absolutely talk to a therapist someday about something we did. That’s fine. I fully plan to pay for it.

Fourth: consent. For himself and for other people. Privacy, safety, boundaries—this stuff matters. We’re also picky about the adults we let into his world. Men, women… everyone.

And the last one: self-care. I want my kid to see that moms are whole humans, not walking sacrifice machines. So sometimes I tell him, “I’m going to move my body,” even if he’s clinging to my leg like a four-year-old with zero patience. Boundaries are hard, but he needs to see me hold them so he learns to hold his own.

These five things are shaping both of us. Parenting is a mirror, and the mirror says, “Hey, you need to work on that.” So every lesson I’m teaching him, I’m also reteaching myself.

Tell me yours—what are the five things you actually care about as a parent? And stay tuned, because the next episode is “Five Things I Don’t Give a Shit About as a Mom,” and I promise, they might surprise you.

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There’s nothing like sitting down with someone who just gets the messy, magical middle of motherhood—and Kelsey Anderson does exactly that. She’s a psychic medium who helps people wake up to their gifts and listen to the inner voice. If you’re a mom who feels pulled in a million directions and your intuition is a whisper you can barely hear, this conversation is going to hit you right in the gut in the best way.

Kelsey has been intuitive since she was a kid, but like so many of us, she shut it down because the world told her to be “logical." In her mid-twenties she cracked herself back open and now she guides others into recognizing what’s fear, what’s anxiety, and what’s their actual intuition talking. We dig into how intuition works like a muscle and why you have to practice using it if you want it to stop feeling confusing.

We get into the collective burnout so many moms are feeling and Kelsey shares the framework she uses with her clients to bring them back to their inner voice. She even uses my own Motherland work as an example and tells me things about myself that honestly feel like she crawled inside my brain.

I also get vulnerable and share a personal story about my Papa, who passed when my son was a toddler. I’ve always felt him with me and Kelsey helps me understand what that back-and-forth communication looks like now that he’s on the other side. It’s wild. It’s tender. It’s healing as hell.

Intuition is something every mom has access to. You just have to relearn how to hear yourself. If you’re craving clarity, connection, or a reminder that you’re not going crazy, this episode is your permission slip to trust yourself again.

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Kelsey’s Framework; Connect, Release, Attune, Illuminate.

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