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Is Performing Pleasure Affecting Your Sex Life?

Is Performing Pleasure Affecting Your Sex Life?

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Last week, we discussed the penis owners' scorecard. This week, we’re talking about vulva owners who perform pleasure.

Moans that are a little too extra. Making that “feel good” face to make them feel good. And putting on a show, even when the sex is mediocre at best.

Sounds like generosity, but smells like performance.

In this episode, Stacey explores:

  • Why managing someone else's feelings is actually manipulation

  • How faking it cheats your partner out of a chance to get better (sex is a skill, not instinct)

  • The hidden cost: they think they know you, but they don't—they only know the role you're playing

  • What happens when nobody gets to see what's actually real for you

This one's for vulva owners and anyone carrying feminine energy. But if you've ever performed to keep the peace? It's for you too.

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