In this deeply moving episode, we sit down with the brilliant author and military spouse-turned-memoirist, Heather Sweeney. Her new book Camouflage: How I Emerged from the Shadows of a Military Marriage takes us inside the complex emotional terrain of identity loss, divorce, resilience, and ultimately, self-discovery. Heather's story is not just one of heartbreak, but of reclaiming voice, power, and purpose—especially for women navigating life after a long-term partnership.

We talk about everything from the layered reality of military marriage to the quiet courage it takes to start over. Heather shares what it's like to lose yourself inside someone else’s story—and how she found her way back. If you’re feeling stuck, alone, or like your identity has been swallowed by your roles, this episode is your permission slip to rediscover who you are.

Episode Highlights:

[0:00] – Introducing Heather Sweeney: Writer, military spouse, and memoirist
[1:35] – From blogging to bylines: Heather’s journey to becoming a published author
[3:42] – Riding the roller coaster of military life and finding connection online
[5:38] – Heather’s national writing credits and how she landed in The New York Times
[8:38] – The invisible load of military marriage and emotional isolation
[10:41] – Losing identity in someone else’s career—and the silent toll it takes
[15:00] – Why divorce was always “in the air” and how it evolved over years
[19:43] – The emotional aftermath of a partner’s divorce request
[23:25] – Financial freedom as the catalyst for leaving
[26:03] – Navigating in-house separation and the complicated new normal
[28:20] – Military custody realities: long-distance parenting and letting go
[31:31] – The bridge from loss to liberation: reclaiming your voice
[33:56] – Building a new relationship from a place of strength and clarity
[36:52] – Advice for women at the edge of leaving: where to begin
[39:34] – Heather’s reflections on rediscovering herself through writing and therapy
[40:13] – Where to find Heather’s book and follow her journey

Links and Resources:

· Order Camouflage: http://posthill.to/B0F316HJTD

· Website: https://www.heatherlsweeney.com/

· Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/writersweeney

· Substack: https://heathersweeney.substack.com/

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Ever feel like your toddler is trying to break you? You’re not alone. In this episode, we’re joined by the incredible Devon Kuntzman—toddler parenting expert and author of the brand new book Transforming Toddlerhood: How to Handle Tantrums and Power Struggles and Raise Resilient Kids Without Losing Your Mind. We dive into the real talk about toddler behavior, emotional regulation, and how we as parents can stay sane and connected in the chaos.

Whether you’re in the thick of toddlerhood yourself, preparing for grandparenting, or just love understanding the "why" behind those tiny tornadoes, this conversation is packed with empathy, science-backed strategies, and hope. Devon gives us a totally refreshing reframe on discipline, tantrums, and screen time—and we also explore how much has changed (and how much hasn’t) in parenting over the decades.

Episode Highlights:

[0:00] Meet Devon and her just-launched book on toddlerhood
[3:06] Redefining what “toddler” really means
[4:33] What’s changed in the way we understand toddler behavior
[7:48] Why toddler meltdowns aren’t bad behavior—they’re communication
[9:47] Parenting styles: from controlling commander to confident guide
[12:49] Real-world scenario: what to do when your toddler hits you
[15:24] Teaching kids to cope with emotions instead of just punishing behavior
[17:19] The importance of reparenting yourself while raising your child
[18:24] How to avoid permissiveness while still setting healthy limits
[21:08] It’s okay to be overwhelmed—and why repair is more powerful than perfection
[25:00] Devon’s 4-step process for repairing relationships after a parenting slip
[27:27] Generational gaps: parenting now vs. then
[29:53] Navigating boundaries with your child and your parents
[32:04] Real talk: toddlers and restaurants are not always a match
[33:53] What’s the deal with screens? Devon breaks down screen time and brain health
[35:32] Parenting isn’t passive—it’s the hardest job you’ll ever love
[37:56] Self-compassion, strong-willed toddlers, and hilarious parenting fails
[39:44] Final takeaways: discipline that connects, teaches, and sets limits

Links and Resources:

🍼 Transforming Toddlerhood by Devon Kuntzman: https://www.transformingtoddlerhood.com/book/

📲 Follow Devon on Instagram: @transformingtoddlerhood

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In this intense and emotionally charged episode, we dive deep into some of the most chilling and perplexing true crime cases involving mothers who committed unimaginable acts against their own children. From psychological abuse to cold-blooded murder, we’re peeling back the layers on what happens when motherhood takes a dark, dangerous turn.

We explore the twisted motivations and complex psychopathology behind cases like Unknown Number, Casey Anthony, Lindsay Clancy, Ruby Franke, and her notorious partner Jodi Hildebrandt. We’re not just recapping the crimes—you’ll hear our raw reactions as therapists and mothers, and we’ll take you into the murky territory of trauma, sociopathy, narcissism, and the haunting dynamics of parent-child bonds gone horribly wrong.

Episode Highlights:

[0:00] - Kicking off with our Midlife Masterclass and a true crime deep dive
[1:24] - “Mothers Gone Wrong” intro and a therapist’s disbelief at these cases
[3:00] - Breaking down the “Unknown Number” Netflix documentary
[5:54] - The big reveal: a mother as the digital abuser of her own daughter
[10:22] - Exploring Munchausen by proxy, sociopathy, and attention-seeking behavior
[13:32] - Control, puppet-mastery, and compulsive lying
[19:31] - Is pathological lying an addiction?
[22:41] - Shifting to Ruby Franke and the cult-like influence of Jodi Hildebrandt
[26:14] - Exploitation, rigidity, and mental manipulation in parenting
[30:16] - The horrifying rescue of Ruby Franke’s emaciated son
[32:47] - Discussing Lindsay Clancy and the reality of postpartum psychosis
[36:52] - The tragic consequences of untreated mental health struggles
[38:45] - Revisiting Casey Anthony from a therapist’s lens
[42:12] - Sociopathy hiding behind maternal faces
[45:01] - Wrapping up with empathy for victims and a plea for prevention
[46:50] - Community callout and how to stay connected

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