Deacon James Keating reflects on the deep reality of emotional suffering, especially loneliness, rejection, and isolation that cannot always be relieved by therapy or circumstance. He speaks of how such pain mirrors Christ’s own experiences of misunderstanding and abandonment, making it a place where intimacy with Jesus can grow. At the same time, he acknowledges the real human need for friendship, community, and belonging. Because suffering becomes crushing when endured alone, the Christian community has a serious responsibility to notice those who are quietly hurting and to bring Christ’s presence to them through real, embodied relationships rather than words alone.

One cannot truly accompany the suffering without first allowing Christ to enter one’s own wounds. Authentic ministry flows from having faced personal brokenness in the light of God’s love, not from unmet needs or abstract knowledge about God. Deacon Keating connects this to a meditation on the Passion of Christ, where God freely enters human pain out of love. By placing personal sorrow within Christ’s wounds and contemplating the Cross daily, suffering is transformed into communion, gratitude, and hope, revealing that no one is abandoned in their pain and that love, by its very nature, always involves the surrender of the self.

1. How do I usually respond to emotional suffering or loneliness, and do I bring that pain honestly to Christ in prayer?
2. In what ways might I be resisting Christ’s desire to enter the wounded or uncomfortable places of my heart?
3. Where have I relied more on ideas about God than on a lived relationship formed through suffering and trust?
4. Who around me may be quietly suffering in isolation, and how might God be inviting me to draw near to them?
5. Do I seek to serve others in ministry from my own unmet needs, or from healing I have allowed Christ to work within me?
6. How often do I meditate on the Passion of Christ, and how does it shape my understanding of love and sacrifice?
7. What fears or attachments keep me from moving toward those who suffer rather than away from them?
8. How can I more intentionally unite my daily struggles with the Cross of Christ and live with deeper gratitude?

Deacon James Keating, Ph.D., is a professor of Spiritual Theology and serves as a spiritual director at Kenrick Glennon Seminary in St. Louis, MO.

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