In Episode 3 of The Untamed Woman, Alice Hong goes straight into the thing so many high-achieving women have quietly lost: their ability to feel real pleasure.

Not the “treat yourself” version. Not the performative, look-hot, make-the-right-sounds version. Real pleasure — the kind that lives in your body… and changes your entire life.

Alice breaks down the hidden pattern she sees over and over again: women who can run companies, families, and full lives… but in the bedroom? They’re managing, analyzing, performing, faking, rushing, or checking out completely. And the truth is: your shutdown in sex is never just about sex. If you can’t receive pleasure in your body, you’re probably not receiving it in your life — either.

She walks you through four of the most common “love masks” that block pleasure and intimacy — the Good Girl, the Ice Queen, the Leader, and the Independent — and how each one quietly shapes what happens in your bedroom (and everywhere else). Then she gives you five practical practices to start rewiring your nervous system, soften back into sensation, and reclaim pleasure as something sacred, nourishing, and non-negotiable.

Because you weren’t meant to live half-alive.
You weren’t meant to perform pleasure while feeling numb inside.
And you definitely weren’t meant to settle for a life where your body is just something you drag through the day.

Content note

This episode includes candid conversations about sex/sexuality, orgasm, self-pleasure (masturbation), intimacy dynamics, nervous system regulation, and feminine/masculine energy.

In this episode, we dive into:

• Why high-achieving women often shut down pleasure (and how it becomes your default)
• The bedroom “performance loop” — and why it creates numbness, resentment, and disconnection
• The 4 love masks that block pleasure and intimacy (Good Girl, Ice Queen, Leader, Independent)
• Why your relationship with pleasure in sex mirrors your relationship with pleasure in life
• Five practices to start rewiring your nervous system and restoring sensation
• How pleasure affects your relationships, energy, creativity, magnetism, and capacity to receive

Resources

Free 30-minute training: The 5 Love Masks That Keep Passionate Love at Bay

Connect with Alice

Follow Alice on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alicehongofficial/

Visit Alice’s website: https://alicehong.com/

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