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How To Not Lose Your Sh!t

How To Not Lose Your Sh!t

By: Red Wine & Blue
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Want to know how you can make a difference without losing your sh!t?


Join Katie Paris and LaFonda Cousin, two moms with very different backgrounds who together run Red Wine & Blue – an organization of over half a million diverse suburban women working together to defeat extremism. Katie, the org’s founder, has worked in political organizing for most of her career. LaFonda, the Chief People Officer, is a wellness expert on a mission to reimagine self-care.


Each week, LaFonda and Katie talk to experts and everyday women who are getting involved, building community, and feeling better in the process.


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Episodes
  • Our Love America Rally (with Heather Cox Richardson)
    Nov 3 2025

    Last Wednesday, Red Wine & Blue was joined by Heather Cox Richardson for a virtual rally that celebrated America. After all, MAGA doesn’t own patriotism or the flag — and the No Kings protests last month were anything but “hate America rallies.” Exercising our First Amendment rights and protecting democracy against authoritarianism is as patriotic as it gets!

    We wanted to build on that momentum to get us through election day, so we held our own Love America Rally last Wednesday night. And we weren’t just joined by Heather that night — tens of thousands of women were on the call to celebrate America. We hope you’re as inspired by Heather’s words as we were.

    Tomorrow is election day! Make sure that you vote and that everyone you know votes too. This is our America and tomorrow is our chance to start taking it back.

    For a transcript of this episode, please email comms@redwine.blue.

    You can learn more about us at www.redwine.blue or follow us on social media!

    Instagram: @RedWineBlueUSA

    Facebook: @RedWineBlueUSA

    YouTube: @RedWineBlueUSA


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    58 mins
  • Let's Go To Lunch and Vote (with Andrea Pollack)
    Oct 29 2025

    This week on the pod, we were joined by a Virginia mom named Andrea. For years, she thought she hated politics — she says it just seemed like a reason for “people to be mean to each other.” But as last year’s election drew closer, she noticed that her friends and family weren’t talking about it. Everyone said they were too exhausted after the first Trump presidency.

    Andrea understood the feeling (who isn’t exhausted by Trump??), but she couldn’t stand by and do nothing. So she started a TroubleNation group called NoVA Childless Cat Ladies. At first, all they did was write postcards, but she used those get-togethers to talk about their shared values and how they could support marginalized groups in their area. Now, a year later, Childless Cat Ladies has more than 100 members!

    It feels like we were just here — on the cusp of an election, not knowing which way things will go. If you’re feeling a bit of PTSD, you’re not alone. This year’s elections are getting a lot less press and attention than 2024, but local elections are SO important. From the governor and attorney general of Virginia to school boards and mayors and ballot propositions across the country, we have the opportunity to protect our neighbors next Tuesday. And, as a bonus, we can kick off a blue wave that’ll take us through next year’s midterms.

    If you want to join Red Wine & Blue and Heather Cox Richardson for a virtual Love America Rally on Wednesday 10/29 at 7:30pm ET, you can learn more and RSVP here.

    For a transcript of this episode, please email comms@redwine.blue.

    You can learn more about us at www.redwine.blue or follow us on social media!

    Instagram: @RedWineBlueUSA

    Facebook: @RedWineBlueUSA

    YouTube: @RedWineBlueUSA


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    33 mins
  • Kindness is a Power Move (with Karen Walrond)
    Oct 22 2025

    This week on the pod, we were so excited to talk to Karen Walrond. She’s the author of books like The Lightmaker’s Manifesto, Radiant Rebellion, and In Defense of Dabbling. Her words about the importance of kindness, self-compassion, activism, and even anger were exactly what we needed to hear coming out of this past weekend of joyful protests.

    Our mission here is to help women make a difference in their communities without losing their shit, and the subtitle of The Lightmaker’s Manifesto is actually “How To Work For Change Without Losing Your Joy,” so clearly we had to get her on the show as soon as we could!

    In the interview, she emphasized the natural rhythm and cadence to activism. Anger can be a useful spark, but kindness and love are what keep the fire going. Rest and recreation (re-creation) aren’t optional — they’re necessary to keep getting up every day and fighting for our values. When our neighbors need to take a breath, we can speak up in their place. And when we need a moment to rest, we can trust that they’ll step in for us. “Activism” might sound overwhelming, but much like the No Kings rallies, it isn’t actually scary. It can be a beautiful intersection of self-care and community.

    As Karen says, “Joy comes from intention, self-compassion is a non-negotiable, and kindness is a power move.” We couldn’t agree more.

    For a transcript of this episode, please email comms@redwine.blue.

    You can learn more about us at www.redwine.blue or follow us on social media!

    Instagram: @RedWineBlueUSA

    Facebook: @RedWineBlueUSA

    YouTube: @RedWineBlueUSA


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    44 mins
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