Earth-shattering. It sounds ambitious, but Mel reckons it's not only possible, it's absolutely learnable. And it has nothing to do with performing, faking it, or wondering if you're taking too long.

This week Jay-Jay and Mel go deep on orgasms; what they actually are, why they feel different depending on where they happen in your body, and why so many of us have been getting in our own way this whole time.

In this episode:

• The difference between a clitoral, G-spot, A-spot, cervical and full-body orgasm
• Why only 18-22% of women can orgasm from penetration alone, and what that means for everyone
• Why your body shuts down at the worst possible moment (and how to stop it)
• The oven vs gas hob arousal gap between men and women
• How to get out of your head and back into your body
• Why slowing down is genuinely the fastest route to a bigger orgasm
• The somatic tools Mel uses with her clients: breath, movement, placement of awareness
• Why crying after sex is a thing (and it's not weird)
• How to create new orgasmic pathways in your body, including cervical orgasms
• Mel's tip: check out https://www.beautifulcervix.com/see-your-own-beautiful-cervix/ if you want to actually see your own cervix (yes, really)

This week's Pleasure Practice: Forget about the orgasm. Just touch your body for pleasure. In the shower, on the couch, wherever. Use breath, awareness and a little movement to build sensation. The orgasms will follow.

This podcast is proudly sponsored by Wild Secrets.

Shop online at www.wildsecrets.co.nz & use the code HAVESEX for 20% off sitewide…

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HOSTS:

Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality

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Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach

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Instagram: @melissavranjes

Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body? Join Sex School here: https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school

Want more from Mel? She writes a weekly sex column for Woman's Day magazine.

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