Have you looked at your relationship after loss and thought, “What’s wrong with us?”

Do you feel like you’re grieving out loud… and your partner is grieving in silence?

Have you caught yourself thinking, “Why am I the only one carrying this?”

Nobody really warns you that grief doesn’t just break your heart — it can shift your whole relationship. And if things feel harder between you and your partner right now, I want you to hear this clearly:

Nothing is wrong with you. You’re grieving.

In this episode, we talk about what happens when two people are hurting… but hurting differently. One person might need to talk, cry, process out loud. The other might go quiet, shut down, focus on functioning. And when you’re standing in those two different places, it’s easy for a story to form:

“They don’t care as much as I do.”

But most of the time, that isn’t the truth. Most of the time, they care deeply — they’ve just been taught to survive by staying silent.

I explain it like this: You’re on the same street… just different sidewalks. One of you stops every few steps because the grief hits hard. The other walks faster because slowing down feels like drowning. And if you don’t understand what’s happening, it starts to feel like distance — when really it’s just two nervous systems coping the best way they know how.

We also talk about why grief changes relationships:

Different grieving styles (out loud vs. inward)

Role confusion (both trying to hold it together for each other)

Unspoken resentment (“Why aren’t they crying?” / “Why do I feel alone?”)

Shifts in intimacy and closeness

The weight of everything else (bills, work, explaining, functioning)

And then I share a few real, tangible ways to support each other without trying to “fix” anything.

Name the difference without blame “I’ve noticed we grieve differently. Can we talk about that without judgment?”

Create small connection moments Not to fix anything — just to be together. Holding hands. Sitting quietly. Asking: “How’s your heart today?”

Get outside support A support group, therapist, or trusted guide can help hold space for both of you — especially when communication feels hard.

“How has grief impacted the way I show up in my relationships?” Optional:

“What do I wish my partner or loved one understood about my grief?”

If you’re listening to this alone and wishing your partner understood… you’re not failing. Sometimes understanding comes after the words. And sometimes an episode like this becomes the bridge.

If this resonated, consider sharing it — especially with your partner. You don’t have to explain everything perfectly. Sometimes sending an episode and saying, “This feels like us,” is enough.

This podcast is for supportive and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist. If you need professional mental health support, please reach out to a licensed therapist, grief counselor, or medical provider.

Reminder

Your grief is not too much. Your pain is not proof your relationship is broken. And even if things feel hard right now — you are not alone.

Until next time… Be gentle with your heart. And with the hearts grieving beside you.

Does Valentine’s Day make you feel more aware of what — or who — is missing?

Do you scroll past smiling families and wonder, “Why not me?”

Have you ever felt invisible on a day that’s supposed to celebrate love?

In this heartfelt episode, we’re talking about a holiday that can quietly wound grieving parents: Valentine’s Day. While the world celebrates romance, crafts, candies, and smiling children in red and pink, many grieving mothers feel something entirely different — emptiness, longing, or a deep ache they can’t quite put into words.

Related Episodes:

Episode 6: Am I Still a Mother After Loss?

Episode 7: Loving Yourself After Loss: Finding Your Way Back to You

Disclaimer: This podcast is for supportive and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist. Please reach out to a licensed mental health provider or grief-informed professional if you need additional support.

Next Steps:

Subscribe so new episodes continue to meet you gently each week.

Share this episode with someone who may be quietly grieving this Valentine’s Day.

Leave a review if today’s conversation helped put your feelings into words — it helps this space reach more grieving mothers.

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Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought, “I don’t recognize myself anymore”?

Do you feel like grief has taken not just your baby, but pieces of who you used to be?

Are you wondering who you are now — and whether that version of you is still deserving of love?

In today’s conversation, we’re exploring one of the most tender truths of grief: how loss changes your identity — and how hard it can feel to love the woman you’re becoming. Grief can make you feel like a stranger to yourself and to people around you.. Your reflection looks different. Your energy shifts. Your purpose feels blurry. And suddenly, the version of you before loss feels more like a memory than a place you can return to.

This episode walks through why self-love feels so far away after loss and why that distance has nothing to do with your worth. You’ll learn gentle ways to begin reconnecting with yourself, nurturing the woman you are now, and offering compassion where blame once lived. Loving yourself again doesn’t mean returning to who you were — it means honoring who you are today, even in the midst of grief.

Related Episodes:

Episode 5: What Healing After Loss Really Looks Like

Episode 6: Am I Still a Mother After Loss?

Disclaimer: This podcast is for supportive and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist. Please reach out to a licensed mental health provider or grief-informed professional if you need additional support.

Next Steps:

Subscribe so new episodes continue to meet you right where you are.

Share this episode with someone struggling to recognize themselves after loss.

Leave a review if today’s message helped soften something inside you — it helps other grieving mothers find this comforting space.

Join the private email community for deeper, weekly reflections and gentle encouragement.