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Guy Shrink

Guy Shrink

By: Bill Roman
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Welcome to Guy Shrink, a bi-weekly podcast where we discuss guy stuff, hosted by Bill Roman, MA, LPC. You know, the stuff that rolls around in your head, keeps you up at night, gives you heartburn and sometimes makes you say, "what was i thinking?" We've all been there, and at times we stay there longer than we intended and certainly longer than what's good for us. Bill is a Licensed Professional Counselor, in Toledo, Ohio - the Glass City, where most of his practice is devoted to men who are trying to figure out life's big questions and little annoyances. On the show, Bill will interview people who can offer a voice and opinion about what's bothering us. "I want to talk about stuff that never in a million years would we seek out a therapist for but we might open up to a buddy. I'm pretty well-convinced life is more than a DIY project." If what you hear is helpful or even annoying let me know by dropping me a line at bill @ guy shrink .com or check out the website. Also, if you've got a problem and want some help, let me know, too. All mail is confidential so you'll never have to worry about getting outed. `So, listen up as you're working out, driving the car, or just sitting down. Relationships Science Social Sciences
Episodes
  • The Addictive Science of Revenge | Dan Schaefer | Episode 32
    Dec 9 2025

    Ever fantasized about getting even? You're not alone — and it turns out revenge isn't just satisfying… It's literally addictive.

    Clinical psychologists Bill Roman & Dan Schaefer dive deep into:

    • Why revenge triggers the same dopamine rush as cocaine
    • How harboring resentment is a "behavioral addiction" (new brain science!)
    • The dark reason Hollywood revenge movies (John Wick, Kill Bill, Gladiator) make billions
    • Why "venting" your anger actually makes it worse
    • The one thing that finally breaks the cycle: forgiveness (and it's harder than it sounds)

    If you've ever replayed "that moment" in your head, chopped wood while imagining someone's face, or cheered when the bad guy finally gets it — this episode is for you.

    Listen now wherever you get podcasts: search "GuyShrink"

    🎧 Apple | Spotify | YouTube #Guyshrink #Revenge #Psychology #Dopamine #Forgiveness #MentalHealthForMen

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    44 mins
  • Wired Differently: Unpacking Men and Women in Relationships | Jan Meyer | Episode 31
    Oct 27 2025

    On the latest episode of the Guy Shrink Podcast, host Bill Roman welcomes seasoned therapist Jan Meyer to explore the fundamental differences between men and women in relationships. With over 50 years of friendship and professional expertise, Jan shares insights from her practice and personal life, highlighting how men often focus on solutions and efficiency, while women prioritize emotional connection and relational understanding. She discusses how men tend to let go of issues quickly, whereas women may dwell on them, leading to communication gaps—like when a husband forgets a morning disagreement by evening, leaving his partner still processing. Jan emphasizes the importance of recognizing these differences, noting that stereotypes hold true about 80% of the time, and encourages couples to study these distinctions to improve mutual understanding.

    Jan delves into practical strategies for bridging these gaps, such as women clearly stating whether they need a listener or a problem-solver, and men learning to validate feelings rather than jumping to fix issues. She introduces the concept of men having "drawers" in their brains, handling one issue at a time, while women's thoughts are interconnected, often leading to misunderstandings. Using analogies like men as "hunters" and women as "shoppers," Jan illustrates how men seek direct solutions, while women explore options relationally. The episode wraps with a call to honor these innate differences, with Jan's elevator pitch urging couples to understand that neither partner intends to create conflict—it's simply a matter of wiring.

    Connect with the Guy Shrink Podcast across all platforms here: https://linktr.ee/guyshrink

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    41 mins
  • Symphony as Antidote: How Music Sharpens the Male Mind | Zak Vassar | Episode 30
    Oct 2 2025

    In this engaging episode of Guy Shrink, host Bill Rothman sits down with Zak Vassar, CEO of the Toledo Symphony Orchestra, to explore why men should embrace the symphony as a powerful antidote to the chaos of modern life. Vassar shares his passion for classical music, emphasizing its ability to cut through the noise of "doomscrolling" and digital distractions, offering a visceral and authentic experience that fosters emotional depth and presence. From the transformative power of live performances to their role in enhancing leadership skills, this episode highlights how symphonic music can inspire men to feel deeply, think differently, and reconnect with what truly matters.

    Vassar recommends three must-hear works—Beethoven's Ninth Symphony, Shostakovich's Fifth Symphony, and Tchaikovsky's Sixth Symphony—for their profound narratives of resilience, defiance, and vulnerability. These pieces, he argues, resonate with the male psyche, addressing struggles like anxiety, professional pressures, and personal identity. By attending a symphony, men can escape the urgency of daily life, tap into a primal connection, and walk away sharper and more grounded. Tune in to discover how the symphony can be a game-changer for mental clarity and emotional strength.

    Connect with the Guy Shrink Podcast across all platforms here: https://linktr.ee/guyshrink

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    50 mins
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