We’re busting more bi+ myths with clear, practical answers: identity vs politics, the “prove it” trap, couples seeking women on apps, ageing and labels, and why health gaps are about stigma—not sexuality. Plus Rainbow Election Forum takeaways, Qtopia’s Sydney Pride Fest news, and a moving tribute to Heidi.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

- You don’t owe anyone a dating résumé. Your identity isn’t up for audit.

- “Queer” can feel political; “bisexual” can be a simple description—both are valid.

- App dynamics are shaped by culture and numbers—don’t scapegoat bi+ people.

- Bisexuality doesn’t disappear with age; safety, language, and context shift.

- Bi mental-health gaps are driven by stigma and minority stress, not by being bi.

CHAPTERS

- Opening Thanks & Community Care

- Rainbow Election Forum: Wins and Gaps

- Qtopia Sydney Pride Fest: What’s Coming

- Star Observer: Why We Show Up

- Myth: “Bi Needs to Be Political”

- Myth: “You Must Prove Your Bi-ness”

- Myth: “Couples Only Seek Women on Apps”

- Ageing and Labels: What Actually Changes

- Bi Health: Stigma vs Sexuality

- Closing Notes + Tribute

RESOURCES MENTIONED

- Rainbow Election Forum — Community Q&A with political leaders — https://equalityaustralia.org.au/our-work/rainbow-votes/

- Health Equity Matters — https://www.healthequitymatters.org.au/

- Qtopia Sydney Pride Fest — Festival mentioned — https://qtopiasydney.com.au/pride-fest-2025/

- Star Observer — Monthly column — https://www.starobserver.com.au/category/give-it-to-me-bi

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MEMORABLE QUOTES

“You don’t have to prove anything to anyone.” — Host

“There’s no one correct way to be bi.” — Host

“It’s stigma—not sexuality—that harms our health.” — Host

CREDITS

Hosted by Steve Spencer and Chad Barnier.

Audio Production and Editing by Chad Barnier.

Podcast artwork by Chad Barnier.

CONTENT NOTE

This podcast often discusses themes of mental and physical health, suicide, minority stress, and politics.

TRANSCRIPT NOTE

Transcripts are auto-generated—apologies for any inaccuracies.

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In this episode of Give It To Me Bi, Chad and Steve tackle the intersections of bisexuality and physical health, unpacking the unique disparities Bi+ folks face in health systems, studies, and lived experience. From breaking down minority stress and the AIB (Attraction, Identity, Behaviour) model to candid chats about disability, health journeys, and everything in between—this episode is a blend of research-backed insight and heartfelt personal stories. PLUS, a major announcement: the very first Give It To Me Bi Live Show is happening this June for Pride Month at Qtopia Sydney—and you're invited.

• Bisexuals & Health Gaps: Why bisexual individuals face unique physical health risks—including earlier onset disability and chronic illness.
• The AIB Model: Breaking down why attraction, identity, and behaviour all matter—and how research often fails us.
• Internalised Ableism & Productivity Guilt: Chad and Steve get real about disability, chronic illness, and the societal shame around “doing less.”
• What Actually Helps: From electrolyte trauma to walking with purpose—realistic, body-positive tips for health without shame.
• Live Show Reveal! We’re kicking off Pride Month at Qtopia Sydney with our first-ever live podcast taping AND a bonus community panel night.

🗓️ Mon 2 June 2025 | Get Tickets

Join us for Give It To Me Bi: LIVE!, our first-ever live show and a powerful all-star Bi+ panel.

👉 How to Support Someone Who Has Recently Come Out as Bisexual

Studies:

• Dyar et al. (2019). Physical Health Disparities Across Dimensions of Sexual Orientation, Race/Ethnicity, and Sex: Evidence for Increased Risk Among Bisexual Adults. Archives of sexual behavior, 48(1), 225–242. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-018-1169-8
• Fredriksen-Goldsen et al. (2012). Disability among lesbian, gay, and bisexual adults: disparities in prevalence and risk. American journal of public health, 102(1), e16–e21. https://doi.org/10.2105/AJPH.2011.300379
• Taylor et al. (2019). Bisexual mental health: Findings from the 'Who I Am' study. Australian journal of general practice, 48(3), 138–144. https://doi.org/10.31128/AJGP-06-18-4615

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Bisexual people face some of the worst mental health outcomes in the LGBTQIA+ community, but why isn’t this crisis talked about more? For this episode of our Bi+ Health Awareness Month series, we sit down with Bailey Merlin, board member of the Bisexual Resource Center, co-host of Bisexual Killjoy, and researcher at Harvard Medical School tackling bi+ mental health and erasure.

Bailey breaks down the structural barriers bi+ people face in healthcare, the importance of finding community, and how activism itself can be a powerful tool for improving mental well-being. Plus, we chat about the Bi+ Book Gang, funding struggles for bi+ advocacy, and the power of storytelling in making change.

🌈 Why the bi+ mental health crisis is worse than you think

📢 How to advocate for yourself in healthcare settings

📝 The role of research in addressing health inequities

🤝 How community and activism improve bi+ well-being

🎙 Inside the Bisexual Resource Center & Bi+ Book Gang

Whether you’re looking for mental health resources, advocacy insights, or just some bi+ solidarity, this episode is for you.

📚 Bisexual Resource Center – Mental health resources, advocacy, and community events

📊 Bi+ Health Awareness Month – Learn more & spread awareness

📖 Bi+ Book Gang – A writers’ space for bi+ creatives

🎙 Bisexual Killjoy Podcast – Hosted by Bailey Merlin & Jase Peeples

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