There’s a quiet pressure many carers feel supporting an older parent or loved one.

On paper, they might be “doing fine at home”.
In reality, you might be the one:

• catching near‑falls
• sorting medications
• driving to appointments
• soothing agitation at midnight
• and wondering if you’re doing enough, or doing it “right”.

We’re often told that good elder care is about doing more: more appointments, more services, more tasks. But without dignity, clear lines in the sand, and an honest look at your own limits, caregiving can quickly become unsustainable – even when it’s done with deep love.

In this Radiant Moments conversation, Michelle is joined by Dr Warren Wong, geriatrician and long‑time innovator in elder care. His mantra:

“The caregiver is the most important person in a frail older adult’s daily life.”

Together they explore what that actually means for you – emotionally, practically, and especially in tender seasons like the holidays.

Inside This Episode

• Caregivers as the “Most Important Person”
• The Green, Yellow and Red Zones of Caregiving
• Living with Dignity – For Older Adults and Caregivers
• Lines in the Sand – Boundaries that Anchor, Not Trap
• Navigating Difficult Conversations & Unspoken Promises
• Holidays, Special Occasions and Mixed Emotions

Sometimes the win is a single shared meal, a laugh, a photo, a taste of eggnog that becomes a golden memory.

• Taking Care of Yourself as a Caregiver
  We close with:
  • acknowledging post‑traumatic stress that can follow years of red‑zone caregiving
  • the importance of noticing if you’re in the yellow zone and choosing one small action by next Tuesday to make things a little better for yourself
  • the reminder that you are not alone – there is a wider community and you are allowed to reach for the outstretched hand

Weekly Caregiver Invitation

This week:

1. Ask yourself honestly: Am I okay good, or okay so‑so?

2. If you’re in the yellow zone, choose one concrete action to do for yourself by Tuesday – a call, a class, a service, or a conversation.

3. Gently sketch your current line in the sand: what you can realistically offer, and where you need help.

Your care, your love, and your very real limits are all welcome here.

Connect with Dr Warren Wong
Website: https://www.drwarrenwong.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drwarrenfwong/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.warrenwong/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/drwarrenwong

Connect with J and B Inspired and Access Caregiver Resources:
Radiant Moments show notes: https://jandbinspired.com/radiant-moments-podcast
90 Second Reset Program: https://jandbinspired.com/90-second-reset-program
Oasis Membership Waitlist: https://jandbinspired.com/founding-member

Music by Konstantin Garbuzyuk (via Uppbeat)

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