What does your nervous system have to do with your sex life?

More than you might think.

In this episode, Dan sits down with nervous system specialist Morgan Starr-Riestis, who explains why feeling safe in your body is one of the most important ingredients for great intimacy.

Many couples assume sexual problems are about technique, desire differences, or communication. But often the real issue is something deeper: our nervous systems are stuck in fight, flight, or shutdown.

Morgan shares how our bodies are wired for safety, how dysregulation can show up in the bedroom, and why learning to regulate yourself can dramatically change your intimate connection.

You'll learn:

• Why safety is the foundation of pleasurable sex
• The difference between actual safety vs perceived safety
• How shame, pressure, and expectations dysregulate the body
• Simple daily practices that help regulate your nervous system
• Why trying too hard to orgasm can sometimes make it harder
• How to identify the underlying need behind recurring relationship patterns

Morgan also shares practical exercises couples can try right away to build safety and connection in everyday moments.

If sex sometimes feels stressful, pressured, or emotionally loaded, this episode will help you understand what your body is trying to tell you—and how to work with it instead of against it.

You can find Morgan on all socials with the handle @mind.psy.guidance

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Marriages rarely fall apart because of one big moment—they erode through small daily disconnections.

In this episode, Dan sits down with author Lindsay Maestes to talk about how couples can rebuild connection, overcome sexual shame, and create a stronger marriage through intentional daily habits.

They discuss faith and sexuality, emotional labor, foreplay outside the bedroom, and why openness and vulnerability are essential for great intimacy.

Plus, Lindsay shares a fun "black belt" sex tip to help couples add novelty and excitement to their relationship.

Resources and Events:

We invite you to explore our Get Your Marriage On coaching program. For a limited time, you can try it free for 30 days and get access to coaching sessions and our full course library.

We also have an opening due to a cancellation at our upcoming couples retreat, and one more spot available on our cruise! We'd love to have you join us!

Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

In this episode, I sit down with my friend Jacqlin — published author and romance reader — to talk about something I've wanted to explore for a long time: how writing intimate stories can deepen connection in marriage.

We talk about:

• Why erotic writing can feel more vulnerable than sex

• The difference between sharing your body and sharing your private thoughts

• How to overcome fear of rejection

• Practical scaffolding and ideas for writing your first spicy story

• Boundaries, motivation, and what NOT to do

• Why your "why" matters more than the spice level

Jacqlin even shares a sample story at the end of the episode (with a content warning), so you can hear how tenderness and connection can coexist with passion.

If you've ever wondered:

• Where do I even start?

• Is this appropriate in marriage?

• What if my spouse rejects it?

• Could this actually bring us closer?

This episode will give you clarity and courage.

Sex isn't just about bodies. It's about inviting your spouse into the private parts of your mind and heart.

And that can be transformative.

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