Men perform. Women please. Connection suffers. In this episode, I sit down with midlife sex expert Susan Bratton to decode desire, libido mismatch, and orgasmic skills for long-term couples. You get a clear map: responsive vs spontaneous desire, why “grab a boob and stick it in” fails, how to warm up arousal, and practical fixes for delayed ejaculation and low drive. Susan lays out small offers, nurturing touch, arousal timelines, orgasmic intercourse techniques, and regenerative sexual health tools. The goal is simple. Create consistent, mutually satisfying intimacy where both partners pursue pleasure without shame.

Timestamps:

00:00 Why performance culture kills connection

02:05 Responsive vs spontaneous desire in plain terms

04:36 Libido mismatch is often bad information and bad sex

07:10 Small offers that rebuild safety and interest

10:02 Nurturing touch vs sensual vs sexual touch

12:45 Female arousal timeline and the 20–30 minute lift

15:18 Orgasmic intercourse techniques the vagina likes

18:04 Yoni massage, oral basics, and expanded orgasm

21:12 Toys that enhance sensation and shared control

23:55 Shame, appetite, and creating permission for desire

26:08 Scheduling intimacy without killing the vibe

28:30 Delayed ejaculation Drivers and a practical stack

31:05 Blood flow support Nitric oxide, vacuum training

33:10 Acoustic wave therapy overview and outcomes

35:05 Rapid-fire Q&A Definition of sex, best orgasms, fantasy

Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! https://youtu.be/WGPTHeP-eP0

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

About the Guest:

Susan is a champion and advocate for all those who desire ageless intimacy.

She is a best-selling author and publisher of 44 books and programs including Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, Ravish Him and many more. She’s the official company spokesperson for GAINSWave® and The Dr. Joel Kaplan Company.

She serves as Chief Advocacy Officer of ProDxHealth.org STI testing.

Susan has been...