Have you ever wondered...

• How do you date without liquid courage?
• What happens when you stop numbing and start feeling?
• Could connection actually be easier alcohol-free?

In this episode, Ruby and Susan sit down with Lily Shanks — life + relationship coach with 7+ years of sobriety, who went from high-achieving attorney quietly struggling with alcohol… to deeply connected, emotionally sober, and helping others rebuild from the inside out.

We’re talking about:

• Sober dating + sober sex (yes, the awkward parts too)
• Learning to trust your intuition again
• Emotional sobriety & feeling your feelings without numbing
• Why real intimacy often gets better without alcohol
• Self-love, boundaries, and authentic connection
• First dates, nervous systems, laughter, and growth

If you’re navigating love, loneliness, or relationships in sobriety - especially in midife - (or you’re sober-curious and craving deeper connection), this episode is for you.

Press play and let’s explore what it really looks like to live — and love — lit. 💘🔥
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Guest Resources for Lily Shanks at My Internal Weather-
Website: www.myinternalweather.com
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/my-internal-weather/

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It is strongly recommended that you seek professional advice regarding your health before attempting to take a break from alcohol. The creators, hosts, and producers of the The Feel Lit Alcohol Free podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, or psychological advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any resource or communication on behalf of the podcast or otherwise to be a substitute for such.

Ever wake up determined not to drink…
only to find yourself pouring a glass by evening?

You’re not broken. You’re human. And this episode explains why.

In today’s conversation, Susan and Ruby unpack the invisible habit loops behind drinking urges, and show you how to gently interrupt them.

Inside this episode, you’ll discover:

• Why urges feel automatic (hello, autopilot)
• The real reason willpower fades by happy hour
• How triggers + routines + rewards keep you stuck
• What “urge surfing” is and how it helps cravings pass
• Simple swaps that replace alcohol with real pleasure
• How tiny shifts can lead to lasting alcohol freedom

This isn’t about fighting yourself.
It’s about understanding your patterns, reclaiming your agency, and choosing something better—one moment at a time.

Stick around to the end of the show to hear how we keep our own lives lit without alcohol, and why real change starts with compassion, not control.

If you want to learn more about your own unique drinking habit and take a break, join Susan's Freedom Formula Group Coaching Course. Invest 8 weeks to take control over your drinking!
https://www.susanlarkincoaching.com/the-freedom-formula-rewire-regulate-and-rise

We Love Hearing From You

Don't forget to follow and subscribe and leave a review! It helps to get the word out that living sober is lit!

Listeners have said that our podcast has helped them get alcohol free!
Join our private community!

Connect with the Podcast Hosts:
Susan Larkin Coaching https://www.susanlarkincoaching.com/contact
Ruby Williams at Freedom Renegade Coaching https://www.freedomrenegadecoaching.com/

Follow Susan: @drinklesswithsusan
Follow Ruby: @rubywilliamscoaching

It is strongly recommended that you seek professional advice regarding your health before attempting to take a break from alcohol. The creators, hosts, and producers of the The Feel Lit Alcohol Free podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, or psychological advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any resource or communication on behalf of the podcast or otherwise to be a substitute for such.

What if connection didn’t come in a glass?
What if community didn’t revolve around drinking?
What if sobriety actually made life more fun?

In this episode, we’re joined by Chris Marshall—
• Founder of Sans Bar, North America’s first non-alcoholic bar
• Mental health advocate
• Author of Faster Than Light
• And a powerful voice redefining sober social life

Chris's story goes deep and together, we explore:
✅ Why alcohol-free spaces matter more than ever
✅ How loneliness keeps people drinking—and how community heals it
✅ What it actually looks like to socialize sober (yes, karaoke included 🎤)

And the question so many people are asking but rarely say out loud:
“If I stop drinking… will I still belong?”

No preaching. No perfection. Just honest conversation, hope, and a reminder that you don’t have to choose between sobriety and a full life.

Let’s get into it.
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Guest Resources for Chris Marshall-
Website: https://www.thesansbar.com/about-us
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chrisconnected/?hl=en
Memoir - Faster Than Light: https://www.thesansbar.com/chris-marshalls-memoir

We Love Hearing From You

Don't forget to follow and subscribe and leave a review! It helps to get the word out that living sober is lit!

Listeners have said that our podcast has helped them get alcohol free!
Join our private community!

Connect with the Podcast Hosts:
Susan Larkin Coaching https://www.susanlarkincoaching.com/contact
Ruby Williams at Freedom Renegade Coaching https://www.freedomrenegadecoaching.com/

Follow Susan: @drinklesswithsusan
Follow Ruby: @rubywilliamscoaching

It is strongly recommended that you seek professional advice regarding your health before attempting to take a break from alcohol. The creators, hosts, and producers of the The Feel Lit Alcohol Free podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, or psychological advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any resource or communication on behalf of the podcast or otherwise to be a substitute for such.