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 Fear or Love talk with Denise at newparadigmoflove.orgJevon Perra opened the discussion by establishing that miracles have no order of difficulty and are shifts in perspective from fear to love, as defined by Denise Darlene, who also explained that healthy boundaries are rooted in self-sovereignty and clarity and not fear-based, addressing a question from Soo Kim about the divine feminine and boundaries. Denise Darlene introduced trust and honesty as the first two characteristics of "God's teachers," shared details of her marriage with Joe where she offered 100% freedom and non-attachment, and suggested a healing process for triggers, which was relevant to kristen who shared they were undergoing cancer treatment and experiencing intense fear; finally, Jevon Perra announced they were quitting their job, which Denise Darlene, Leila Fung, and kristen supported.Principles of Miracles and Order of Difficulty Jevon Perra opened the discussion by reading a passage from A Course in Miracles emphasizing that there is no order of difficulty in miracles, and all expressions of love are maximal, while the source of miracles is what truly matters (00:00:00). Denise Darlene defined a miracle as a shift in perspective from fear to love, which can be consciously chosen by seeking a loving meaning in events (00:01:35). Jevon Perra shared a personal anecdote about a challenging trip to Costa Rica where they realized that obstacles could be viewed as opportunities for adventure rather than battles (00:02:58).Choosing Meaning and Perception Jevon Perra concluded that everyone is the "meaning machine," choosing between a fearful, angry story or a loving, fun story for any given circumstance (00:05:21). They connected the idea of miracles occurring naturally as expressions of love, where the real miracle is the inspiring love itself (00:06:26). Jevon Perra emphasized that choosing love is a simple choice, not something that requires achievement or external criteria, asking why anyone would choose "crazy" instead of that peaceful, loving state (00:07:53).Presence and Fear Denise Darlene asserted that being present in the moment is key to making loving choices, as fear is typically about the future or past interpretations (00:09:00). Soo Kim showed an oracle card from A Course in Miracles that speaks to the idea that everything that happens is gently planned for one's highest good, which can shift a state of fear (00:10:18). Jevon Perra reflected on how previous difficult life events, like moving to Missouri and leaving Fresno, ultimately led to a wonderful current relationship, suggesting that perhaps everything happening is the best thing possible (00:13:38) (00:15:22).Intimate Connection and Self-Reflection Jevon Perra shared how being open and engaging with everyone during their trip to Costa Rica led to wonderful intimate connections and gifts, concluding that the main difference in the experience was themself (00:15:22). They questioned if they were truly creating their own heaven or hell regardless of external circumstances (00:17:31).Divine Feminine, Boundaries, and Love Soo Kim raised a question about the distinction between the divine feminine, which extends love, and the profane feminine, which might allow being "walked all over," particularly concerning setting boundaries without enabling others (00:17:31). Denise Darlene responded that boundaries are natural when one is in a state of love and peace, contrasting this with fear-based boundary setting (00:20:34). Denise Darlene emphasized that healthy boundaries are rooted in self-sovereignty and clarity, and the other person does not have to agree (00:21:44).Trust and Honesty as Characteristics of God's Teachers Denise Darlene introduced the first two characteristics of "God's teachers" from the manual of A Course in Miracles: trust, followed by honesty (00:23:19). She stated that only those who truly trust can be truly honest, and many people live lies as part of codependent behavior, which is an attempt to be loved (00:21:44). Denise Darlene recommended Byron Katie's work as helpful for addressing codependency (00:23:19).Self-Awareness and Guilt Soo Kim became emotional, realizing how little they knew themself and expressing guilt over projection, which Denise Darlene acknowledged as a beautiful insight (00:25:43). Denise Darlene suggested that guilt comes from fear-based judgment, and a first step is to drop judgment and look at past choices through a "filter of neutrality," recognizing that the meaning was decided by the individual (00:27:31). She added that people are essentially "innocent and wounded," and judgments over choices have nothing to do with their eternal self (00:28:44).Authenticity, Freedom, and Non-Attachment in Relationships Jevon Perra asked Denise Darlene to share about the beginning of their marriage with Joe, specifically how she committed to never making him "bad" and giving him 100% freedom, even regarding sexual relationships (00:30:16)....
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