In this conversation, Pam and Caroline discuss how to set boundaries in relationships affected by addiction. They emphasize the importance of leaning into discomfort, deciding what actions to take, and enforcing boundaries. They also discuss the need for patience, communication, and self-care when setting boundaries. The conversation covers various examples of boundaries, such as not giving money, blocking phone numbers, and setting curfews. They also provide tips on how to say no and use 'I' statements. The hosts highlight the need for individualized boundaries and the importance of safety and emotional well-being.

• "When you're setting these boundaries, there's a mental process that goes with it and a grieving process that goes with it. Because when you set a boundary with somebody, you're changing the whole dynamic of your relationship, and you're letting go of what you thought your relationship was going to be." ~ Pam Moleta

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RESOURCES:

Plutchik's Wheel of Emotions: Feelings Wheel - https://www.6seconds.org/2022/03/13/plutchik-wheel-emotions/

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs

Jefferson Fisher – Attorney with lots of 1-2 minute videos on how to handle different difficult
situations, people and conversations. https://www.facebook.com/justaskjefferson/ #JustAskJefferson

Loewhaley – Great 1-2 minute videos on how to set boundaries and handle different situations,
people and conversations at WORK. “How Do I Professionally Say…..?”
https://www.facebook.com/loewhaley/

Sharon Martin, PhD – Great free blog, newsletter and resources on how to set healthy
boundaries and other mental health issues. https://www.livewellwithsharonmartin.com/

Day ONE Journaling App – Free app downloaded from Apple and Google Play
https://dayoneapp.com/

The Well Minded Podcast (Sober Soul Recovery) – Great podcast on a variety of recovery topics
from the substance user’s perspective is invaluable for family members!!
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-well-minded-podcast-with-master-therapist-lynn-
matti/id1357979104

In this conversation, Caroline and Pam discuss the concept of enabling a person in active addiction. They explore the roles played within an addicted or alcoholic family and the psychological and behavioral symptoms that both the person with the substance use disorder and their loved ones may experience. They also delve into the difference between helping and enabling, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries and allowing natural consequences to occur. The conversation concludes with a discussion on self-awareness and the need to change our own behaviors in order to break the cycle of enabling. In this conversation, Pam and Caroline discuss the concept of enabling and how it relates to addiction. They explore the ways in which enabling behaviors can create a crisis for both the enabler and the person with addiction. They emphasize the importance of setting healthy boundaries and having honest conversations with loved ones in active addiction. They also discuss the role of support groups and self-care in the recovery process. The conversation concludes with a list of do's and don'ts for loving someone with addiction.

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RESOURCES:

To locate FREE Narcan (naloxone) near you in SE Texas: https:gulfcoastoutreachservices.org

To locate FREE Narcan (naloxone) near you in Mississippi: https://odfree.org/get-naloxone

To find a Nar-Anon Family Support Group near you: https://www.nar-anon.org/find-a-meeting

Summary

This conversation explores the challenges faced by a single mother raising a son who struggles with addiction. It delves into the journey of addiction, the impact on the family, and the difficulties of navigating the legal system and insurance battles. The conversation also touches on the mother's initial denial and eventual acceptance of her son's addiction. This conversation explores the journey of a mother, Caroline, as she navigates her son's addiction and recovery. Caroline shares her experiences of recognizing the signs of addiction, confronting the reality of her son's addiction, and seeking help from rehab centers and support groups. She emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries, taking action, and finding support from organizations like Naranon. Caroline also recounts the harrowing experience of her son's overdose and the journey of recovery they both embarked on. The conversation highlights the significance of supporting a loved one's recovery and seeking help and support for oneself.

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Questions for Caroline or Pam? Email us at FamilyRecoveryOutLOUD@yahoo.com

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RESOURCES:

To locate FREE Narcan (naloxone) near you in SE Texas: https:gulfcoastoutreachservices.org

To locate FREE Narcan (naloxone) near you in Mississippi: https://odfree.org/get-naloxone

To find a Nar-Anon Family Support Group near you: https://www.nar-anon.org/find-a-meeting