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In this episode of “Self-Represented in Family Court”, Tracey Bee breaks down a common (and frustrating) reality: your case can lose traction even when you have “strong evidence.”

Why? Because in Family Court, outcomes often hinge less on how much you have, and more on how you position and present your case, how you manage timing, and whether your narrative matches what the court can actually act on.

This is a practical episode focused on helping you stop guessing, stop reacting emotionally, and start approaching your next move with strategy.

What You’ll Learn

• Why “more evidence” isn’t automatically persuasive (and when it can backfire);
• The difference between evidence and admissible, relevant evidence in proper format;
• Why “fairness” is not the standard family court is built around;
• How lawyers (and others) can unintentionally derail you by telling you what you want to hear;
• The 3 traction drivers: accountability, timing, and narrative;
• Why nothing in Family Court is isolated, and why your decisions must reflect the bigger picture;
• What to watch for: patterns, motives, agendas, and external factors impacting key players.

Key Takeaways

• Surface isn’t the system. What you think is happening may not be what’s actually driving the decision.
• “Entitled to” doesn’t mean “you’ll get it.” The law and real-world outcomes aren’t the same thing.
• Fairness isn’t the framework. Family court is about rules, procedure, discretion, and what’s actionable.
• Your case doesn’t move on volume. It moves on relevance, clarity, format, and strategy.

Next Step
✅ Take the Diagnostic Assessment here (recommended if you want clarity on what’s weakening your positioning/presentation)
✅ Book a 1-Hour Strategy Session Here
✅ Subscribe / Follow the podcast Here

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

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This time of year I usually take a break to decompress.

So right now I am working on clearing my mind while at the same time gearing up for 2026.

I am still working though so if you need to schedule a strategy session, need help preparing for court or want me to assist with trial preparation, feel free to reach out to me at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

Happy Holidays

Take care,

Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

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Most people think the more evidence you bring to court, the better.
But in family court? That approach can destroy your credibility.

In this episode, Tracey explains why judges ignore evidence, how opposing counsel gets it thrown out, and how to present your case strategically so your key proof actually gets seen.

A must-listen for anyone gathering screenshots, texts, videos, or emails for court.

💡 What You’ll Learn:

• Why over-documenting can sabotage your case
• How opposing counsel challenges your documentation
• How to think like a strategist, not a collector
  
  

Episode timestamps

(00:00) Intro
(02:00) Why gathering “everything” creates a false sense of security
(09:37) When the judge ignores your evidence entirely
(11:46) The judge has 100% discretion — not you
(12:54) Why “tons of evidence” may not matter at all
(17:13) The real strategy: present, don’t just collect
(17:59) Know your judge — what they care about, and what they ignore
(19:05) Intent vs. outcome: documenting with strategy
(20:00) Stop guessing what your judge wants — know
(21:16) You must understand all the key players, not just the law
(22:15) Why do you need strategy guidance before presenting evidence
(23:44) Time to regroup: the smarter way to build your case
(24:54) How strategy sessions help you position your case
(25:04) Closing thoughts and next steps

Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.